Another Child Dead After Sex Offender Allowed to Roam Free

Eleven year-old Sarah Haley Foxwell of Salisbury, Md, has been found dead after allegedly being abducted from her bedroom Tuesday night by her Aunt’s former lover.

Sarah Haley Foxwell (AP Photo)

Sarah’s body was found in a rural area over ten miles from her home. The cause of death has not been determined but a murder investigation is in full swing.

Registered sex offender, Thomas J. Leggs, has been charged with Sarah’s kidnapping and he is now in custody. Thirty year-old Leggs is the former boyfriend of Sarah’s aunt, with whom the girl had been living. Authorities say that Leggs and the aunt broke up a month ago.

Sarah had gone to bed on Monday night and was gone Tuesday morning. Sarah’s younger sister is alleged to have seen Sarah leaving her room with Leggs that night. Police say Leggs knew where the family kept a spare key.

Leggs is a registered “high risk” sex offender. He was convicted in 2001 of raping a teenager. As far as I am concerned, Sarah’s Aunt put that child in danger. Either she didn’t check his background or she knew he was a sex offender (child rapist) and put the children in danger anyway. In the times we are living, and with easy access to finding registered sex offenders, single parents must do a background check on anyone who is going to have access to their children.  If the Aunt in this case knew Leggs was a child rapist and she chose to have a relationship with the man anyway, then she should be in prison right along with her former beau. I am so tired of hearing about these women who are either too stupid or too selfish to protect children from child rapists. Never mind that the man was released from prison after raping a young girl, but if Sarah’s aunt willfully chose to put Sarah in harm’s way, it is not only inexcusable, it is criminal.

If I had it my way, these women would be serving time in prison. I don’t understand Prosecutors and law enforcement. They put a victim of child rape in jail for cashing some bad checks, and put pot-smokers in prison, but they continually allow these moronic self-absorbed women to place countless children in danger. Prosecutors must begin to set the standard by charging these women with a crime. Any woman who is too insecure and weak to be with a real man (not one that has to rape a child) ought to be prosecuted for child endangerment.

Yes, I am angry. Would love comments.

Check out my article on this subject,  Treasonous Mothers

Source: Washington Post

Mother of Two Gets Life in Prison for Slashing Her Boy’s Throats, Leaving Then to Die

The Iowa mother was sentenced to life without parole on Tuesday for slashing the throat of her two year-old son and leaving him to die. Michelle Kehoe also received twenty-five years for the attempted murder of her older son. Kehoe had slit the throat of her older son but he survived to tell his story. Kehoe left both children to die and then attempted to kill herself.

The defense attorney said Kehoe felt she was “trying to save her sons from a life of suffering when she cut their throats and her own.” Hmmm. If she wanted to save them, she should have allowed the boys to live their life with their father, or given the boys to a loving friend or relative, and then taken her own life. Or, worse case scenario, give them an overdose of sleeping pills and allow them to die in peace. If you want to put someone out of their perceived misery, you don’t terrorize them, make them see that their own mother is the murdering them, and then slash their throat with a hunting knife.

I am very happy that the jury rejected her insanity defense and convicted her of first-degree murder and attempted murder because this was a Satanic, brutal, deliberate and savage attack on two innocent little beings.

Kehoe has a no-contact order, which prohibits her from contacting or seeing her surviving son. Children need to be able to express themselves to those who harm them. Her son might very well want to see his mother some day to tell her how she made him feel when she tried to kill him. He might also want to face her one day to forgive her. Children are very loving and forgiving creatures. The boy deserves to be able to do that if he chooses to one day. I hope the courts will allow it if he does.

“When [the victim's] therapist tells us he is ready and it might be beneficial, then that’s the time to revisit the no contact order. He’s pretty fragile right now,” Vander Hart said.”

Prosecutors say that Kehoe planned the attack during the previous month. She bought a knife and duct tape, then she lied to her husband about where she was taking the boys. When Kehoe’s suicide attempt failed, she wrote a note stating that a man broke into the car when she stopped at a gas station and that he forced her and her boys to the area where they were found. Kehoe’s note said she tried to fight the man off with pepper spray, but that he knocked her unconscious.

“I asked for consecutive time because there were two victims and because of the extensive planning and premeditation of these crimes,” Vander Hart said.”

Source: CNN.com

Woman Who Turned Her Husband In for Child Porn, Now Has Regrets

“Kari Norman believes she did the right thing when she called Romulus Police to tell them she found child pornography on her husband’s computer…

But she wouldn’t do it again.”

“I made that call on March 19. That’s the day my life fell apart.” says Kari Norman. She says she lost her home and her financial security when she turned her husband in for having child pornography on his home computer. She even admitted to having attempted suicide before testifying against her husband last month.

Kari Norman (above) says she wants to deal with the custody issues she has with her twelve year-old son and then she wants to “disappear somewhere into America.”

Her husband, Christopher Scott Norman, 42, was sentenced to three to five years on twelve counts of “child sexually abusive activity and using computers to obtain child pornography.”

“He’s in jail. He has food and a place to sleep. My son and I have nothing,” said the Missouri native who landed in homeless shelters after her airline employee husband of just three months was jailed.”

Kari Norman had called the police asking them if what her husband had on his computer was illegal.  She says before she even knew what was happening, the police were in her home, looking over her shoulder at the computer and telling Kari they were going to arrest her husband. Kari says, “I did everything they asked of me. I drove to the airport to pick him up like normal and brought him home to a dozen waiting police cars. I helped them destroy my life.”

On one hand, this woman gets my applause for turning in her degenerate husband, who has probably sexually abused a child sometime in his life. On the other hand, her attitude troubles me because she is complaining about herself and wishing she hadn’t called the police instead of concentrating on how many children she may have protected. She isn’t thinking about how much courage she could have offered other women in the same position. Unfortunately, her words are probably frightening other women into silence. There are countless mothers who keep quiet about incest going on in the home, including my own mother –women who remain silent because they don’t want to lose their home and financial security. Victims do not want a weak woman to keep quiet and allow the man to continue to rape the child. Victims want a strong mother to stand up against the child rapist. They want a mother who will defend the child -even to her own death- and who will say, “No more!” “You will not touch another child!”

Victims of child sexual molestation, torture and rape want mothers to give up everything in defense of the child and to sweep them away in their arms to safety. If my mother had protected me and brought me to live with friends or relatives, or even a shelter, at least I would have grown up with a woman who made me feel like I was worth something, like I mattered as a human being. I may not have had a three-bedroom home, but I would have had my mother’s love –something that is infinitely more important to a child than financial security.

Prosecutors say there is nothing they can do to help Kari Norman and they say there is a growing need for assistance for women who turn their husbands in and who then lose everything.

“Morrison compared Norman’s plight with the many women paralyzed by the choice of sacrificing their financial security and self-esteem to reveal a spouse’s criminal incest. “When a woman without a substantial support structure calls the police, her life can be completely disrupted. In that situation, you could lose your financial support, your home, your social status, your friends, your job,” Morrison said. “I’ve heard a lot of women say the decision to take action like this was the most difficult and hardest thing they did in their lives, but it saved them their children.”

Kari Norman was treated as a hostile witness during the trial by both the prosecutor, as well as her husband’s defense lawyer, because she had become reluctant about turning him in. In addition, even though her husband has been convicted, her MySpace.com page contains statements of dedication for her husband. The Prosecution also claims that she tried to hide evidence.

Kari Norman says, “I’m tired of being the good wife. I should have ignored what I found and divorced him first. I should have gotten away from here and then turned him in later. I just didn’t realize doing the right thing was going to be so wrong for me.”

In my opinion, this woman is operating out of fear and self-survival –the two strongest components of the human mind. I’m happy that she turned him in but sorry that she has such strong self-serving regrets. I wish she were stronger because her weakness shows how easy it is for a woman to look the other way.

Kari and Christopher Norman were married this year, just two weeks after he found her on MySpace. After three months of marriage, Kari found electronic folders on the household computer that contained photographs from adult sex parties that her husband organized through Craigslist and which took place at local motels.

The files which got her husband convicted were photos of naked children, including toddlers, who were engaging in sexual activity. Christopher Norman, had downloaded the photos from the Internet.

Kari Norman says she really has no family to help her and that she is scared because she has to try to survive on her own.

I would love to read comments on this article.

Source: Detroit News.com

Doug Guthrie/Detroit News

Why Does Casey Anthony Provoke Such Rage in the American Public?

What is it about this woman that causes so many people to want to see her dead?

Accused child murderer, Casey Anthony, has provoked an unprecedented amount of rage from the American public.  Blogsites around the Net project anger and scream for the death penalty for the young mother. Even people who don’t normally support Capital Punishment are crying for Casey Anthony to be put to death.

At one time, I included myself among them.  I too wanted Casey Anthony to pay with her life if she was convicted of the murder of her daughter Caylee Marie. I have since revoked my desire for her to be put to death but many Americans are not so quick to retract the idea that a mother who murders her daughter ought to die for it.

So what is it about Casey Anthony that invokes so much hatred, and for some, even a mob-like mentality against her? Is it because little Caylee was so angelic-looking? Is it Casey Anthony’s alleged total disregard for her child, so much so, that she didn’t alert anyone her daughter was missing and went out partying shortly after the child was allegedly “abducted?” Is it the tattoo that Casey Anthony had put on her body shortly after her child went missing? A tattoo that reads, “A Beautiful Life?” Is it the evidence that a few weeks before Caylee Marie went missing, someone in the Anthony home searched the Internet for “how to make Chloroform,” “neck breaking” and “how to murder someone?”

Maybe it’s a combination of all the evidence, but many people have killed their children before the Anthony case made headlines. Many women have brutally and satanically taken their children’s lives before we all heard of Casey Anthony. Andrea Yates and Michelle Kehoe are two examples. Even more curious to me, is why so many Americans are shocked and outraged when about one and a half million American women abort their own children every year. Why are we as a society so surprised and condemning towards a woman who might have murdered her daughter in order to go out and party and have sex freely without being encumbered by a child? Every single day, American women who feel that their pregnancy is a burden, murder their unborn children so that they can party and have more sex. So why is everyone so shocked and outraged about the Casey Anthony case? Are we numb to abortion because there are so many of them? If millions of women murdered their toddlers every year, would we also become numb to it and eventually turn our heads? Even make it legal?

Judge Stan Strickland has denied a request by Casey Anthony’s defense team to remove the death penalty from being on the table in the Casey Anthony case. The judges’ ruling allows the prosecution to ask the jurors to give Casey Anthony the death penalty if they convict her. The trial is set  to begin in June 2010.

Please feel free to comment on this post –even if you don’t agree with it. I like my readers to express their opinions.

Please check out: My Mother Tried to Kill Me: My Obsession With the Casey Anthony Case

Psychiatrist Says Lyrics in Casey Anthony’s Favorite Song, Show a Guilty State of Mind

A prominent psychiatrist, Dr. Andrew Hodges, feels that Casey Anthony has subconsciously ‘confessed’ to the murder of her daughter Caylee.  The psychiatrist bases himself on Casey’s favorite song, “The Past” by Sevendust.

According to sources, Dr. Hodges is “an expert at interpreting how criminals reveal themselves subconsciously through what they say and write. Allegedly, after Casey was released from jail, she forced a friend to listen to the song thirteen times in a row. Casey reportedly told the friend, “This song was in my head the whole time I was in jail… It reminds me of everything that’s going on in my life.”

The psychiatrist feels the following lyrics point to Casey Anthony’s guilt, “Beneath the water that’s falling from my eyes lays a soul I’ve left behind…” Dr. Hodges says that Casey is referring to the killing of her daughter as ‘the soul she left behind.’ He says, “Casey is grieving for a soul she left behind, confessing responsibility for the death,” said Dr. Hodges. “Casey has some emotional wound—a hole inside—that caused her to act out her aggression on her daughter. She is sorrowful but able to live in denial.”

Dr. Hodges, who has not treated Casey Anthony, claims that a portion of the lyrics imply that Casey is afraid she will be found guilty of the murder of her daughter Caylee. The lyrics that the doctor points to are, “I’ll pray (the past) doesn’t scream my name so I light a flame and let it breathe the air that kills the shame.” Dr. Hodges says that Casey reveals her “frightening mood swings” with the chorus, “I’m up, I’m down, like a roller-coaster racing through my life. I’ve erased the past again.” However, it is being reported that Dr. Hodges does not believe that Casey hated her child. If Casey is guilty, what does he think drove her to murder her daughter? Love?

I agree with some of what Dr. Hodges proposes, especially the lyrics about “the soul I’ve left behind” being representative of the murder of Caylee. But I disagree with his belief that Casey did not hate her daughter. She may not have hated her all of the time, and any hatred would have mostly been subconscious hatred, but in the moments that Casey felt trapped by her daughter’s presence, she might very well have felt hatred and resentment for her daughter. Subconscious rage is what drives a person to murder. It is usually long-harbored and repressed hatred for others that causes humans to act out irrationally and violently.

Dr. Hodges’ assessment of Casey Anthony’s feelings towards her daughter did not take into account the lyrics, “the edge of sorrow was reached but now I’m fine. I’ve filled the hole I had inside.” To me, this might be saying, ‘I killed my daughter and the hole inside of me was filled by the act of violence perpetrated on my child, because it helped expel the rage and eliminated my problem.’

It is my opinion that the psychiatrist is correct when he proposes that Casey’s fear of being found guilty can be found the lyrics, “I’ll pray it doesn’t scream my name so I light a flame and let it breathe the air that kills the shame.” Or maybe the lyrics say to her, ‘I hope the body (Caylee) does not point to my guilt with evidence found on it.’ “Kill the shame” would be indicative of personal guilt –a personal shame over something.

The next set of lyrics are, “I’m up I’m down like a rollercoaster racing through my life I’ve erased the past again.” I agree with the doctor that Casey might experience severe mood swings, maybe even to the point of being Bipolar and that she might have a tendency to mentally block what is painful for her.

“a risky morning I feel like I’m alive…” A woman who feels alive by taking risks? Like murder?

Casey Anthony goes on trial in June of 2010 for the first degree murder of her daughter, Caylee Marie.

Casey Anthony (Florida State Attorney’s Office)

Source: Denver Crime News

Did Nancy Grace Contribute to the Suicide of a Young Mother?

Two year-old Trenton Duckett disappeared in 2006 and has never been found. On the day that Trenton was reported missing, his mother, Melinda Duckett, told police that she and Trenton had gone to a  shooting range and somehow got lost on the way. She told authorities that she drove in circles for hours.  Melinda’s account of things conflicted with eyewitnesses who saw her walking into her apartment, without her child, during the time she says she was driving around lost. In addition, Duckett would not take a Lie Detector Test.

According to police, Melinda Duckett had “racy naked photos and videos.” Authorities feel that Melinda might have been selling pornographic tapes of herself out of her home. It is alleged that in one video, Melinda Duckett is straddling a crib and a baby is seen or heard crying in the background.

I was suspicious of Duckett’s story from the beginning and if these accounts of pornographic photos involving a crib and a child crying are true, Melinda had some serious issues, but do I don’t condone what Nancy Grace did?

I witnessed the CNN interview between Grace and Duckett. At the time I felt that Nancy Grace was angry and tired. I know she cares about truth and justice and I felt that Grace was just kind of worn out from cases of parents who kill their children. However, when I learned of Duckett’s suicide, and now that the parents of Melinda Duckett are suing Nancy Grace (they are claiming that Nancy Grace pushed their daughter into committing suicide), I think that I agree with their assessment of things. The thing that holds me back is that this could quiet reporters who ask hard questions. I am a strong advocate for free speech.

During the interview, Nancy Grace yelled at Duckett, “Where were you? Why aren’t you telling us where you were that day? You were the last person to be seen with him,” and even pounded on her desk while asking the questions. Melinda Duckett committed suicide shortly after the interview. She shot herself in the head.

At the time of the interview, Nancy Grace had NO idea if Duckett was guilty or not. The mother had just lost her child and was vulnerable. Yes, she might have killed her son to free up her life, but Nancy Grace hammered into Melinda Duckett and could have pushed her over the edge. Yes, Duckett was already psychologically disturbed, but it was not okay for Nancy Grace to push the young mother so hard when she was already on the brink of a breakdown.

Nancy Grace denies under oath that she put Duckett through any kind of psychological abuse while she interviewed her. Nancy Grace stated that she had “no knowledge of… Duckett’s frame of mind” and that Melinda “voluntarily appeared” on Nancy’s talk show. But the mother had just lost her son, certainly Nancy Grace had to suspect that if Melinda were innocent, she would be depressed or anxiety-ridden when she appeared on the program.

Melinda Duckett and Nancy Grace

Harvard professor, Dr. Harold J. Burztaijnwrote,  feels that Grace did indeed contribute to Duckett’s suicide. His opinion is still a preliminary one but he wrote that, “the humiliation Melinda was subjected to ‘was a substantial contributing cause’ in her death.”

Age progression photo of Trenton Duckett. This is how he might look today.

Sources: Denver Examiner

Denver Crime News

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Teen Charged With Murdering His Ten Year-Old Brother

Seventeen year-old Andrew Conley reportedly showed no remorse for strangling his ten year-old brother, Conner. The teen allegedly told police that, since he was eight years-old, he had fantasies about killing someone.

Conley apparently dragged his brother’s body out to his car and then drove to see his girlfriend. The girl told police that Andrew seemed more happy than she had seen him in a very long time. Conley is said to have discarded his brother’s body near a park in the Ohio River community about ninety miles southeast of Indianapolis Indiana.

Andrew commented on the murder, “Like I had to … like when people have something like they are hungry and there is a hamburger sitting there and they knew they had to have it and I was sitting there and it just happened.”

The two brothers had been wrestling and Andrew said he put Conner in a headlock until the ten year-old passed out. Conley says he then dragged little Conner to the kitchen and choked the child for twenty minutes until he died. Conley then put a plastic bag over his brother’s head and drove the body to the park. He then went to his girlfriend’s house and presented her with a sweetheart ring

Indiana State Police / AP

“Sometimes people are just evil,” said Dearborn-Ohio County Prosecutor Aaron Negangard. Yes, sometimes, but other times the child has deeply rooted reasons for wanting to kill. Andrew allegedly told police that on the morning that he killed his brother, he had stood over his father with a knife while he slept and Andrew had contemplated killing him.

There is a good chance that Andrew’s true desire was to kill his father, not his little brother.  People with severe psychological problems often take out their pain on less threatening people, not the person that they hold the true rage for. Killing the ten year-old was safer and easier than trying to murder the parent who is usually bigger and holds the authority figure power in the house.

The murder of Conner comes just a few weeks after fifteen year-old Alyssa Bustamante was charged with the stabbing and strangulation of her nine year-old neighbor, Elizabeth Olten. Alyssa also told authorities that she killed because she wanted to know what it was like to kill someone.

My guess is that both of these teens held deep rage inside, rage instigated by someone in their early childhood. Their desire to feel what it’s like to murder probably stems from a desire to murder the person who created the rage, but they both chose an easier target –a helpless victim. The description given by Andrew’s girlfriend about how happy he felt after the murder is evidence that what he did relieved some of the rage inside. However, this is only a temporary relief and the murderer will soon want to kill again in order to experience the release.

Source: AOL Crime News

Wayne Dyer, Positive Thinking Guru, Has Leukemia

“Wayne Dyer, best-selling author and lecturer, is one of the world’s preeminent proponents of the power of positive thinking. Dyer often tells audiences that he is his message. As a child, he was abandoned by an abusive, alcoholic father, then lived in orphanages. He went on to write 25 books, including the mega best seller, “Your Erroneous Zones,” which made him a talk-show regular who now makes millions selling DVDs and giving speeches. Dyer’s central theme is that you can attract whatever you want, be it money, love, even improved health through your thoughts.

“You must assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled,” Dyer, 69, tells his followers. “In the process you begin to attract experiences that match up to what your imagination is offering. This is the great secret of those who are able to manifest into their life, almost effortlessly, what they would like to have.”

ABC’s, Dan Harris, interviewed Dyer about his philosophy:

Harris: The problem I have with the wish fulfillment stuff that you talk about, and positive thinking generally, is that if you invert the logic, then the bad things that are happening to us, and happen to everybody, must be the result of thinking incorrectly.

Dyer: It’s not about correct or incorrect thinking. It’s about alignment. When you see a tsunami hit, as one did not too long ago, and you see people just washed out to sea, it’s not like, you know, thousands of people were just thinking incorrectly and got washed out to sea. They were aligned with that energy that came in there. This is the way this universe works.

We all choose how we will exit this earth before we even come here. It is a pact between God and our soul. No amount of positive thinking will stop one’s fate. Those people’s time on this earth was up. Simple as that. No amount of positive thinking will stop our own death, nor the manner in which we die.

This guru is now facing a major challenge to his own philosophy. While ABC News was filming its story, Dyer, who has preached that you can change your health — even your DNA — through the power of thoughts, announced to followers that he is seriously ill with chronic lymphocytic leukemia, a disease he initially said he could beat — and which he has been told he could with for 25 years. When Harris sat down with Dyer a few weeks later in October, however, he had changed his tune slightly.

Harris: Do you think that the fact that you are now ill is going to be grist for the people who have punished you, who say, “Look, here this guy’s been telling me that if I change the way I think, I can get what I want? Well, something bad just happened to him so that proves that his whole philosophy is off or he must not be living correctly.

Dyer: First of all, I’m not ill at all. Life itself is a sexually transmitted terminal disease. So, you know, I don’t think of it as, as any punishment at all. I’m thrilled with it.

First of all, to say that “Life itself is a sexually transmitted terminal disease” shows that Dyer has issues that he is not dealing with. Secondly, his Leukemia is the result of something being off in his mind. His “disease” of the body is a ‘dis-ease’ of his mind. He needs to penetrate something within himself to heal. NO amount of positive thinking is going to cure him.

Dyer: It might be less aggressive, I just don’t think of it in terms of winning and losing. I certainly hold to the view, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. When you look at an illness as the presence of something in your body, when you look at it as a punishment for what you’ve done, uh, you know, I don’t think that your body can go into a healing mode, nearly as well as it can if you take a much more peaceful approach to it. I do think that I probably am more peaceful about all of it, about everything in my life than I was maybe 30 years ago, when I was writing more about healing ourselves of those kinds of diseases, But my experience in life has shown that when you have an attitude of peace about something, that your body has a much better chance of healing it, than it does if you get aggressive and angry and hurt and depressed by it. It’s just my experience.

Even if he “heals” the Leukemia -he must still deal with what is wrong in his subconscious mind –what caused the illness in the first place. If he does not address the root cause, he will get sick in some other part of his body…and so on and so on.

Harris: Watching you speak the other night, you said things like, “You need to believe it to see it.” You also said, “You need to assume the attitude of the wish fulfilled in order to get what you want.”

The problem with this way of thinking is that when people try it and truly feel that it can work for them, and then something bad happens, they think that they are defective in some way, when in actuality, we humans cannot control life. We are not Gods.

The other problem here is that we also need to accept the consequences of our desires.  What if two women want the same guy. They both believe in positive thinking. They both end up meeting him and dating him, then what? Are they both going to be with him and both marry him? What if a person has their eye on a home that fits their liking. They put a photo of the home up on their fridge and imagine themselves in it. If the owner of the home suddenly dies in a car crash and his wife, who can’t make the mortgage, has to sell it to the person who desired it –will that person feel extreme guilt? They will have to live with the feeling of having had a part in the death of the owner of the home.

Harris: So are you saying that your wish is not necessarily to, to have this disease go away?

Dyer: No, it’s not, it’s not about having the disease go away. It’s about my being able to, my wish is to be able to live each and every day from as healthy and positive a perspective as I possibly can. And I think I can do that whether leukemia decides to live within me, or whether it’s not there. And I’m not going to be deciding whether I’m going to be happy everyday on the basis of whether a white blood cell count has gone up or gone down.

People who promote “the power of positive thinking” are never someone who is suffering from serious psychological, emotional, and physical problems. Try telling people like Greg Milligan, whose mother beat his genitals when he was a boy because she couldn’t orgasm, that Greg just needs to think positive and be happy with his sexual dysfunction and nightmares. Yes, Greg can overcome what he endured, but not without deep psychotherapeutic help.

The subconscious mind gets pretty angry when we try and lie to ourselves. If a person tries to cover up their true pain and unresolved sexual abuse issues by telling themselves that they are fine and healing, but don’t take any action to work on themselves, their subconscious mind will rebel against them and make them sicker.

I am very sorry that Wayne Dyer has Leukemia. I hope that he recovers from it. However, I must be truthful. There is a possibility that Dyer’s Leukemia is his soul’s way of letting him know that there is a higher power and he cannot control life and what happens by imagining good things and by thinking positive. There is a higher hand and when we humans erect our ego to the point of thinking that we can control life through our thoughts, the higher hand will knock our ego down.

When mankind learns to submit to God’s will, to treat all others and all of nature as we ourselves would want to be treated, and when we learn to control our emotions and center ourselves in love, truth, -and have no expectations one way or another about anything- and when we work on ourselves and our past psychological garbage, then and only then, can we know peace.

Source: ABC News

Mother Beat Her Child’s Genitals When She Couldn’t Orgasm

As ugly as this topic is…people need to know about it because silence and denial perpetuates these crimes.

Greg Milligan’ mother began to fondle him when he was just four years-old and she began to aggressively sexually assault and beat him soon after. Greg was sometimes beaten unconscious. Greg’s father left him when Greg was two and by the age of eight, Greg was being sexually abused by men that his prostitute mother brought home to have sex with.

But like most victims, Greg was too ashamed to reveal what was happening. Not only was he ashamed about being sexually violated but his mother created terrible guilt inside of Greg by brutally beating him when she could not reach an orgasm while abusing him. Greg says, “Through her difficulty reaching climax, she would become frustrated and violent, hitting and punching and slapping not only my genitals, but my face and body.” This heinous act must have created terrible deep-seated guilt inside of Greg.

What this woman did to her son is beyond the repair of superficial therapy and positive thinking therapy. For a mother to cause violence on the genitals of her son because she not only had to abuse a child for sexual stimulation, but that she could not orgasm, is a crime that will most likely effect Greg’s sexuality forever.

Greg and his mother (photo ABC News)

“One of the unspeakable secrets in the world of child sexual abuse is that mothers can be molesters. Often, they prey on daughters, but more frequently their sons — who report increased feelings of isolation and sexual confusion along with thoughts of suicide.”

Greg says, “Around 10 years old, I started to get this unbelievable feeling of dread that if I don’t get out I am going to die from the decadence, the debauchery, the forced molestations and the beatings that became more severe.” He also said that he suffered for months from “hysterical paralysis.” Greg escaped at age eleven. Greg is now forty-six years-old and both of his parents are dead, but this will probably haunt him for the rest of his life.

The Journal of Sex Research found that women, without male accomplices, sexually abuse male children fourteen percent of the time, and that they sexually abuse female children six percent of the time. I am certain that this percentage is an under-estimate. A more recent national survey indicates that around twelve percent of all child abuse cases are committed by women. This sounds more likely but it may even be higher because most victims of sexual abuse by their mothers remain silent about it forever.

Experts agree that sexual abuse by mothers is “really hard to diagnose — most of the time it’s not witnessed.” Most children have normal physical examinations and any abrasions or redness from the abuse will disappear within 24 hours of the assault.

However, this does not mean that survivors do not suffer most, if not all, of their lives. Greg Milligan says that he suffered from panic attacks and had wet the bed until he was sixteen years-old. He saw many different child psychologists and therapists. Greg also endured several foster homes and sheltered himself at the homes of friends or with priests. Although he was able to finally go to college and attend graduate school, Greg needs medication in order to sleep and continues to suffer from chronic nightmares and anxiety attacks. (My reader Riorico -who thinks that survivors of abuse ought to consider themselves lucky and move on- would tell Greg, “Get over it.”)

Greg also endured the tribulation of sexual dysfunction. Greg has had problems with intimacy and his first marriage ended in divorce. He is currently working with a therapist, along with his second wife, in order to help him through his sexual dysfunction. Men who have been sexually abused by their mother will often suffer from sexual problems. Some are hypersexual or addicted to pornography. In Greg’s case, he has to deal with the fact that he was also sexually abused by adult males. This, coupled with his mother’s abuse, can create severe sexual problems, confusing sexual thoughts, as well as sexual identity issues.

The article also mentions how boys and adult survivors like Greg are often not believed by anyone in the family, by neighbors, or by society in general. This is why the vast majority of those who are sexually abused by their parent, or an adult of the same-sex, will never speak of it. Society must believe and need to hear the stories of people like Greg.

Source: ABC News

Slide Show of a Killer: Alyssa Bustamante’s Facebook Photos Screamed for Help

Nine year-old Elizabeth Olten was allegedly murdered by fifteen-year-old Alyssa Bustamante. Police say that Bustamante has confessed to investigators and the teen has been indicted on first-degree murder. Authorities say Bustamante used a knife on Elizabeth and strangled her. They say that Bustamante dug a grave for her victim prior to carrying out the act.

The fifteen year-old allegedly cut the throat of Elizabeth and stabbed her. Police say it was because “she stated she wanted to know what it felt like.”

We have been told that Bustamante tried to commit suicide when she was thirteen and was treated for depression and cutting herself. CNN Headline News showed video of Bustamante electrocuting herself.

Self-harm is strongly linked to child sexual abuse. As is depression, rage, and numbness to other people’s pain. I have wondered from the beginning of the case what would have caused a fifteen year-old girl to plan and brutally murder a nine year-old. What is the root of her rage and need for violence?

Alyssa Bustamante was not living with her parents at the time the crime was committed. I have to wonder why, and what caused her to become so depressed and suicidal? What created a child who has such rage inside of her that she wants to harm herself and others?

In the following slide show of Bustamante, we witness Alyssa Bustamante in many photos of herself taken in interesting positions, with strange facial expressions and mannerisms. In the photos we see a teenager who has an oral fixation and a teen who is excited about blood and aggression. The photos show a girl who has a serious subconscious drive to kill herself, or to cause herself pain for self-punishment and guilt. The slide show depicts a teen who wanted to carry out brutal violence on others, and who experienced pleasure in doing so.

In the photos, Bustamante often covers her face with her hair -a sign of shame and guilt. In one photo, she even seems to be reaching out for help. In another she is looking at her reflection in a mirror with her hand on the glass, as if longing to know what is wrong with her and how bad it will get –as if she is in fear of what she might do, but doesn’t know how to stop it.

I feel sorry for Bustamnte because she is still just a child and she shows signs of having been sexually abused pretty badly in her childhood. Could this be the reason that she was driven to commit brutal murder on a nine year-old? Child sexual abuse can create violent rage inside of a person, rage beyond any understanding by those who have not experienced sexual abuse. If Alyssa was sexually abused in her younger years, does it excuse Alysssa? No. But it does point to a root cause.

I feel so sorry for Elizabeth Olten, who was sadistically attacked and who suffered terrible fear and pain. I feel sorry for Elizabeth’s family, who know what she went through and that they can no longer hold their child.

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The victim, Elizabeth Olten