Mother Beat Her Child’s Genitals When She Couldn’t Orgasm

As ugly as this topic is…people need to know about it because silence and denial perpetuates these crimes.

Gregg Milligan’ mother began to fondle him when he was just four years-old and she began to aggressively sexually assault and beat him soon after. Gregg was sometimes beaten unconscious. Gregg’s father left him when Gregg was two and by the age of eight, Gregg was being sexually abused by men that his prostitute mother brought home to have sex with.

But like most victims, Gregg was too ashamed to reveal what was happening. Not only was he ashamed about being sexually violated but his mother created terrible guilt inside of Gregg by brutally beating him when she could not reach an orgasm while abusing him. Gregg says, “Through her difficulty reaching climax, she would become frustrated and violent, hitting and punching and slapping not only my genitals, but my face and body.” This heinous act must have created terrible deep-seated guilt inside of Gregg.

What this woman did to her son is beyond the repair of superficial therapy and positive thinking therapy. For a mother to cause violence on the genitals of her son because she not only had to abuse a child for sexual stimulation, but that she could not orgasm, is a traumatic crime –one that probably affected Gregg in ways that we cannot imagine.

“One of the unspeakable secrets in the world of child sexual abuse is that mothers can be molesters. Often, they prey on daughters, but more frequently their sons — who report increased feelings of isolation and sexual confusion along with thoughts of suicide.”

Gregg says, “Around 10 years old, I started to get this unbelievable feeling of dread that if I don’t get out I am going to die from the decadence, the debauchery, the forced molestations and the beatings that became more severe.” He also said that he suffered for months fromhysterical paralysis.” Gregg escaped at age eleven. Gregg is now forty-six years-old and both of his parents are dead, but this will probably haunt him for the rest of his life.

The Journal of Sex Research found that women, without male accomplices, sexually abuse male children fourteen percent of the time, and that they sexually abuse female children six percent of the time. I am certain that this percentage is an under-estimate. A more recent national survey indicates that around twelve percent of all child abuse cases are committed by women. This sounds more likely but it may even be higher because most victims of sexual abuse by their mothers remain silent about it forever.

Experts agree that sexual abuse by mothers is “really hard to diagnose — most of the time it’s not witnessed.” Most children have normal physical examinations and any abrasions or redness from the abuse will disappear within 24 hours of the assault.

However, this does not mean that survivors do not suffer most, if not all, of their lives. Gregg Milligan says that he suffered from panic attacks and had wet the bed until he was sixteen years-old. He saw many different child psychologists and therapists. Gregg also endured several foster homes and sheltered himself at the homes of friends or with priests. Although he was able to finally go to college and attend graduate school, Gregg needs medication in order to sleep and continues to suffer from chronic nightmares and anxiety attacks.

Gregg also endured the tribulation of sexual dysfunction. Gregg has had problems with intimacy and his first marriage ended in divorce. He is currently working with a therapist, along with his second wife, in order to help him through his sexual dysfunction. Men who have been sexually abused by their mother will often suffer from sexual problems. Some are hypersexual or addicted to pornography. In Gregg’s case, he has to deal with the fact that he was also sexually abused by adult males. This, coupled with his mother’s abuse, can create severe sexual problems, confusing sexual thoughts, as well as sexual identity issues.

The article also mentions how boys and adult survivors like Gregg are often not believed by anyone in the family, by neighbors, or by society in general. This is why the vast majority of those who are sexually abused by their parent, or an adult of the same-sex, will never speak of it. Society must believe and need to hear the stories of people like Gregg.

I want to thank Gregg for being brave enough to tell his story. Many men and women out there, who have been sexually abused by their same-sex parent, are very grateful for his strength and courage.

To buy Gregg’s book, A Beautiful World, click here

Source: ABC News

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12 Responses to Mother Beat Her Child’s Genitals When She Couldn’t Orgasm

  1. John says:

    I know this is an old column but I had to post. I thought I was the only one who was abused like this. My mom used to punish me by whipping my bare penis with a belt. She’d make me strip completely naked, then lie on a bed on my back with my legs spread apart. She would whip my penis so hard that I sometimes passed out. I always thought she did this because I was a bad boy and she whipped me there because it’s the most sensitive part of your body. But now I realize that it was sexual abuse, not just physical. Thanks for telling your story.

    • Alethea says:

      John, you are so welcome, and I am joyful that you took the time to comment and open up with yourself.

      Not only was it sexual abuse, but psychological as well. Your mother also probably did it because she was sexually abused by a man as a child and unfortunately, she took her repressed rage at the man, out on you.

      I am so sorry for what happened to you.

      Know, that somewhere, deep inside herself, your mother loves you, is very sorry, and knows it was wrong. The soul knows everything.

      ~Alethea

  2. Chriss Sauls says:

    Hi there
    I would just like to thank Gregg for opening up to the world about being abused by his mother.I was abused by my own sister and a close friend of my family.I would like to get in contact with Gregg,cause he has been such an inspiration to me,while watching the Oprah Winfrey show.Keep up the good work Gregg.

    Chriss-Capetown,South Africa

    • aletheamarinanova says:

      I too would like to thank him. I can’t find any contact info. for him, not even on his website for his book. If you have any more luck than me, please post it. Thanks!

      Alethea

  3. Shana Dines says:

    I was honored to be able to hear Gregg Milligan speak at Siena University. I got his book which he autographed and I gave him a hug. His sensitivity, kindness and gentle spirit are beautiful. It is so obvious that he really is all of those things. I can’t find an email address for him. I tried to find it on his website.

    I am going to try to get a speaking engagement for him here in the Elkhart South Bend, Indiana area. We drove over 2 and a half hours to see him and were welcomed warmly. It is obvious that he is highly respected, and loved by his Siena University family. Thank you all for your comments. I am so very sorry that we all share such an horrible common bond. It is amazing to see how someone can overcome such horror though, it should give us all hope. God bless you all Shana

  4. Shana Dines says:

    I too am a survivor of sexual abuse by my mother and also many others. There was also SRA involved in my background which is still too bizarre to believe and deal with. I am trying to find out information on when Gregg is speaking I found it at one time and can’t find it now. I believe it is in Michigan in April sometime?Please let me know, a friend of mine, also a survivor want to hear him speak and to get his book. Sincerely Shana

    • aletheamarinanova says:

      Hi Shana. My heart goes out to you because survivors of SRA and mother/daughter incest have a very hard road with regards to being believed and believing themselves. I will do some research about Gregg speaking and post it if I can find anything.

      Best to you,
      Alethea

    • aletheamarinanova says:

      Siena Heights University’s 90th Anniversary Committee will present “A Beautiful World: The Gregg Milligan Story,” discussion and book signing at 7:30 p.m. April 23 in Dominican Hall.

      The University is headquartered in Adrian, Mich., with degree completion centers in Southfield, Benton Harbor, Monroe, Battle Creek, Lansing, Jackson and Port Huron.

      For more information on Milligan’s visit, please contact Doug Goodnough at 517-264-7141 or dgoodnou@sienaheights.edu.

      For possible other speaking engagements by Gregg, contact:

      http://www.rainn.org/

  5. OGB says:

    I saw Greg on Oprah today and was so very moved by his story. I, too, am an incest survivor. I My step-father was an alcoholic and when my mother would leave me home alone with him, he would start fondling me and disrobing me and would continue on until he was done. My mother walked in on one of these situations, sent me to my room and never mentioned it again. I was 7 years old. So no only was my innocence stolen by my step-father, but I learned early that I couldn’t count on my mother to protect me either. I am 53 now and still have residual issues with intimacy, trusting people and all of the other problems that come with the territory. I was married for 25 years to a man that I thought was different, but he, as I put the pieces together through the years, was an addictive personality – both chemical and sexual – and I couldn’t continue with that. The best thing that came out of the whole marriage was my daughter. Like Greg, I may still be dealing with all of the affects of what happened to me, but I am breaking the cycle. My daughter has grown up to be a beautiful, well-adjusted adult and I have 3 beautiful grandchildren that I continue to work to break the cycle. They too are growing up in a safe, secure and loving environment knowing that they are protected, loved and special.

    Thank you Greg for your courage to tell your story on national television. You are truly an inspiration to all who have seen you.

    Blessings,
    B.

    • aletheamarinanova says:

      Thanks for posting. I am so sorry that I missed the segment on Oprah. I hope that Greg was not exploited and that Oprah handled it well.

      I was also sexually abused as a child, by my father, for years. My mother also did not protect me. I too was sick and dysfunctional for years. I too retain some residual problems but I am still working on them in therapy and will one day be free.

      I am so sorry that you suffered what you did, but I am happy that you have accomplished so much.

      God Bless you.
      Alethea

    • cindy says:

      I’m confused by your word ‘incest’ in connection to the word ‘step-father’. He is not biologically related, so I believe it is ‘molestation, sexual abuse and rape’. Am I wrong? I have had all of these done to me by my adoptive father and was told by my therapist that it is not incest unless you are biologically related.

      • Alethea says:

        I don’t know why your therapist would say this, especially regarding a step-father. Is your therapist trying to minimize what happened to you?

        Incest is sexual relations between persons who are so closely related that their marriage is illegal or forbidden by custom. I guess it can also be considered “intrafamilial” when it is a step-father and his step-child, but incest would be the best word to use –especially if the child and step-father have lived in the same home for years. The betrayal can be equal to a biological father.

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