I love it when the readers who don’t like me, or my articles, give me material to use in a full Blog post:
Your site it merely a copy of the Nancy Grace show!! Are you kidding me!? It is not like you are a victim’s rights advocate, and providing this wonderful service to help people who are being abused. There are people in the world who are saving women and children from abuse and oftentimes putting themselves in great danger to do so. These are the real Heroes – not some mentally unstable woman who thinks that reading article after article of tragedy brings inner peace and helps victims, and who is constantly fighting with her so called “readers.” I am sure Elizabeth Smart would receive “comfort” from reading the nice little numbers you did on her. There is a subconscious reason why you hate Elizabeth Smart so much. It is probably because she is someone who really did experience TRUE sexual abuse and was able to move on with her life. Now she lives the life of privilege that she was born into.
You totally contradict yourself too. You claim that you “enjoyed” having sex with your father. People do not repress “enjoyable” memories. You are the typical case story of one of all of the women in the 90′s who developed “false memories” because it was the “trend.” You fit the personality profile to a T. “The people who develop false memories are usually highly intelligent and sensitive women.” -Psychology Today.
You were probably a spoiled, self-entitled child who felt that she deserved more than her middle class parents could give her. There was probably some degree of abuse from you parents, but it was not sexual and it was not as you “remember.”
You are highly intelligent and in order to find a purpose or a meaning in your life, on a subconscious level you developed false memories of incest. You now view yourself as a victim’s crusader and your life is defined by focusing on child abuse and incest cases. How sad that this is what brings you peace. You are the one who needs to GET A REAL LIFE and stop trying to keep other vulnerable people in a depressed state. ~Ms. Understood
Dear Ms. Understood,
I have never pretended to be a hero.
None of my opinions about Elizabeth Smart were ever meant to bring her comfort, and were written because she is of little comfort to many survivors of abuse who dislike her and her family’s comments about the effects of trauma and rape. If she is as healed and healthy as you think she is, and as she says she is, then her reading my articles would cause her to merely wave her hand at me as someone who doesn’t know what I am talking about. She wouldn’t take it personally or be affected at all.
You think I hate Elizabeth Smart, but that is your own personal conclusion. I don’t hate anyone. I hate some of her comments and attitude, but I have no feelings of hatred for her. Anger and hatred are not synonymous.
If you had any knowledge at all about Dissociative Amnesia, you would know that shame and guilt are a very large part of why some people repress the abuse in the first place. You would also know that the memories of having enjoyed some of the abuse come long after a person has recalled the incest. The subconscious mind gives a person what they can handle when they can handle it. Guilt and shame over having enjoyed sex with one’s father are seriously strong emotions —strong enough to stay suppressed until a person is strong enough to deal with them.
When a person experiences trauma, they usually repress everything connected to the trauma, thus, they suppress the fact that they took pleasure in some of the incest or that they enjoyed some of the attention their father gave them. Your accusations of me tell me that you have not even read my story. I sought therapy because I was sick with a debilitating disease that no medical doctor could treat or cure, and because of severe psychological problems. I had not even heard of repressed memory until after I experienced it myself. So you might want to check your facts before making your feeble attempts at insulting me.
Let me inform you of something “Ms. Understood” there is nothing “trendy” about having a disease that makes a person bed-ridden, and causes them pain and suffering that you hope and pray you never experience. There is nothing “trendy” about Shingles, or urinary problems, or heart problems, or chest pains, or social anxiety, or fear that is life-altering, or severe headaches, MRI exams, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, Tachycardia, Dyspepsia, or being unable to breath properly. There is nothing trendy about nightmares and panic attacks, or the countless other problems that I had prior to remembering the abuse by my father, –symptoms that I don’t have anymore. There is nothing trendy about telling your family what you have remembered and being called horrible names by people who you thought loved you, being ostracized by them and cut out of the family by two sisters.
You don’t affect me “Ms. Understood.” I don’t give two hoots if you think I was sexually abused or not. I have been to hell and back from what I went through, so your silly, ignorant, unaware opinion of me is meaningless. You are also a hypocrite because you are doing exactly what you accuse me of doing to Elizabeth Smart.
As I said before, if someone gets depressed reading my Blog, then there is something inside themselves that needs to be looked at and changed. Peace comes from within.
You keep telling people in one way or another ‘to get a life,’ but being that you can’t stand my blog, and you keep coming back, tells me that maybe it is you who needs to find some meaning in your life? Maybe some inner reflection is needed on your part?
Anyway, thanks for allowing me to bring up the topic of repression with regards to shame and guilt. It is a needed subject. Many people don’t understand about repressed memories, or that many victims enjoy the sexual aspect of child abuse.