“Despite the recent well-publicized and deeply disturbing child molestation trial of self-proclaimed polygamist prophet Warren Jeffs, TV reality show polygamist Kody Brown and his trendy wives and family seem to be everywhere these days. Their TV show, “Sister Wives,” is a big hit. They are constantly sought after for interviews and talk show fodder, and are even up for an Emmy nomination. It seems like every time I turn on the television I am seeing or hearing stories about their “…unconventional — yet somehow relatable family.” Unfortunately, that type of terminology, which is doled out in heaping portions by the media, has a dramatically different meaning for me than for others who seem to have been smitten by the show.”
“In my world, unconventional doesn’t mean four mommies showing up for back-to-school night; the FLDS do not send their kids to public schools. If they’re lucky, the children may receive the equivalent of an eighth grade education before being sent out to work on a construction job, or to become mothers themselves. Admittance into the bride pool can begin within a few weeks after a child’s twelfth birthday. “Mother” is the person who raises and nurtures you as a “daughter in Zion” over the course of those short formative years. She then takes you by the hand and places it in the hand of a man decades older, in an arranged “spiritual sexual union,” alongside that man’s several or many other “sister wives.” That’s what I call unconventional!”
“Unconventional?” That is rape in my book! The FLDS women who handed their underage daughters over to male church elders, and who sometimes stood by and watched while the child was being raped, should have sat on trial with Warren Jeffs.
Many people, like “Dr. Drew,” “Dr. Phil,” and others, have defended the mothers as “victims” and as being “brainwashed.” Those women are no better or worse that the women in families of incest who turn a blind eye to the rapist husband or boyfriend, or who stand by and watch their child being raped and do nothing. They are no better or worse than the countless women who virtually offer their child over to their husband because they are tired of having sex with him.
Why have the women in the FLDS church been excused? Because they wear matronly dresses with collars up to their necks? Because they walk around with a bible in their hand, grow their own food, or shun the so-called “sins” of mainstream society?