“Last Saturday’s Post featured an interview with Shannon Moroney, the wife of a supposedly rehabilitated Jason Staples, who in 1988 murdered a woman in a fit of rage and spent 10 years in prison. A month after their marriage, Staples sexually assaulted and kidnapped two women. He’s back in prison as a “dangerous offender.”
Mentioned, but not elaborated on in the interview was the revelation that Staples had been sexually abused as a child. You’re not surprised. By his mother. Now perhaps, you are.”
Why? Why should anyone be surprised that mothers sometimes sexually abuse their children? Why do people not know that this crime is not rare?
Why does Anderson Cooper, who said he ‘wants to bring very important topics’ to his new show, not discussing mothers who sexually abuse their kids? All I have seen so far on Cooper’s new talk show is his interview with cast members of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, several interviews with a bunch of actors, and parents with 14 kids.
Why did Oprah rarely talk about mother-daughter incest? Why did Dr. Phil interview parents who enabled, covered up, and lied for a child murderer, but not the victims of mother-daughter incest? Why does U.S. News not write about mothers who molest their little boys and girls? Why doesn’t CNN have entire programs concerning the devastating effects of this crime, and how many people kill themselves because their own mother sexually violated them?
“Most rapists were subjected to some form of sexual abuse in childhood. A startling amount is perpetrated by females. Peer-reviewed studies conclude that between 60-80% of “rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men” were sexually abused by a female.
And yet it is commonly understood that, except in rare cases, women don’t harbour such impulses. As McGill professor of Social Work Myriam Denov, who did her Phd thesis on female sex offenders, notes, as recently as 1984, a study proclaimed that “pedophilia does not exist at all in women.”
It exists in spades. According to a 2004 U.S. Department of Education mass study of university students, 57% of students reporting child sexual abuse cited a male offender, and 42% reported a female offender. Interestingly, 65% of the survivors of female abuse who opened up to a therapist, doctor or other professional were not believed on their first disclosure. Overall, 86% of those who tried to tell anyone at all about their experience were not believed.
Public acknowledgement of female sex abuse remains a social taboo. BBC Radio 4 broadcast a film called When Girls Do It, following which a TV show, This Morning, opened its lines to survivors of female sex abuse. The studio was overwhelmed by over 1,000 calls, 90% women, none of whom had ever before disclosed their secret.”
There are three types of female sex offenders: those who are predisposed to it and will abuse very young children, exactly like men; those who are “male-accompanied,” like Karla Homolka (alive and well, and the mother of three children in Montreal); and the “teacher-lover” type, like the infamous Mary Kay Letourneau, who seduced and, after a stint in prison, married her former student.”
And there are some mothers who sexually abuse their teenage girls.
“Even mental-health professionals and social service agencies avoid facing up to the phenomenon. I spoke at length with an adult survivor of a mother’s sadistic sex abuse. “Nina,” not her real name, told me that although she has attempted many times to deal with her past therapeutically, “I have never found any social service agency willing to acknowledge this or speak about it.”
I have found that many feminist-minded women defend and protect mothers who sexually abuse their kids because they say the woman was merely a victim of the man in the family, so she should not be held accountable. Or they say the mother is to be excused because she was sexually abused as a child. This kind of mentality angers me and it provides a blanket of protection to women who have deviant sexual thoughts about kids, and who act on those thoughts.
“To err is human. Are women fully human? Then stop treating them like saints or permanent moral infants.”
Amen to that!