“Stop Treating Women Like Saints or Permanent Moral Infants”

“Last Saturday’s Post featured an interview with Shannon Moroney, the wife of a supposedly rehabilitated Jason Staples, who in 1988 murdered a woman in a fit of rage and spent 10 years in prison. A month after their marriage, Staples sexually assaulted and kidnapped two women. He’s back in prison as a “dangerous offender.”

Mentioned, but not elaborated on in the interview was the revelation that Staples had been sexually abused as a child. You’re not surprised. By his mother. Now perhaps, you are.”

Why? Why should anyone be surprised that mothers sometimes sexually abuse their children? Why do people not know that this crime is not rare?

Why does Anderson Cooper, who said he ‘wants to bring very important topics’ to his new show, not discussing mothers who sexually abuse their kids? All I have seen so far on Cooper’s new talk show is his interview with cast members of the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, several interviews with a bunch of actors, and parents with 14 kids. 

Why did Oprah rarely talk about mother-daughter incest? Why did Dr. Phil interview parents who enabled, covered up, and lied for a child murderer, but not the victims of mother-daughter incest? Why does U.S. News not write about mothers who molest their little boys and girls? Why doesn’t CNN have entire programs concerning the devastating effects of this crime, and how many people kill themselves because their own mother sexually violated them?

“Most rapists were subjected to some form of sexual abuse in childhood. A startling amount is perpetrated by females. Peer-reviewed studies conclude that between 60-80% of “rapists, sex offenders and sexually aggressive men” were sexually abused by a female.

And yet it is commonly understood that, except in rare cases, women don’t harbour such impulses. As McGill professor of Social Work Myriam Denov, who did her Phd thesis on female sex offenders, notes, as recently as 1984, a study proclaimed that “pedophilia does not exist at all in women.”

It exists in spades. According to a 2004 U.S. Department of Education mass study of university students, 57% of students reporting child sexual abuse cited a male offender, and 42% reported a female offender. Interestingly, 65% of the survivors of female abuse who opened up to a therapist, doctor or other professional were not believed on their first disclosure. Overall, 86% of those who tried to tell anyone at all about their experience were not believed.

Public acknowledgement of female sex abuse remains a social taboo. BBC Radio 4 broadcast a film called When Girls Do It, following which a TV show, This Morning, opened its lines to survivors of female sex abuse. The studio was overwhelmed by over 1,000 calls, 90% women, none of whom had ever before disclosed their secret.”

WOW!

There are three types of female sex offenders: those who are predisposed to it and will abuse very young children, exactly like men; those who are “male-accompanied,” like Karla Homolka (alive and well, and the mother of three children in Montreal); and the “teacher-lover” type, like the infamous Mary Kay Letourneau, who seduced and, after a stint in prison, married her former student.”

And there are some mothers who sexually abuse their teenage girls.

“Even mental-health professionals and social service agencies avoid facing up to the phenomenon. I spoke at length with an adult survivor of a mother’s sadistic sex abuse. “Nina,” not her real name, told me that although she has attempted many times to deal with her past therapeutically, “I have never found any social service agency willing to acknowledge this or speak about it.”

I have found that many feminist-minded women defend and protect mothers who sexually abuse their kids because they say the woman was merely a victim of the man in the family, so she should not be held accountable. Or they say the mother is to be excused because she was sexually abused as a child. This kind of mentality angers me and it provides a blanket of protection to women who have deviant sexual thoughts about kids, and who act on those thoughts.

“To err is human. Are women fully human? Then stop treating them like saints or permanent moral infants.”

Amen to that!

~National Post

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25 Responses to “Stop Treating Women Like Saints or Permanent Moral Infants”

  1. Stacy says:

    SHE was working toward a plea …… the children recanted…. wonder WHO got to them?
    obviously I need to read more, but to the “for the defense of women” poster above. Yep, here’s another WOMEN abuser.

    http://www.newschannel6now.com/story/13876981/couple-charged-with-sex-acts-against-two-children-in-court

    • Alethea says:

      That’s right Stacy, child victims recant quite frequently. Someone in the family probably did get to them. It is also quite likely that people in that family, who don’t believe women are capable of child sexual abuse, might have talked the child out of the accusations. It is people like the “defender of women” commenter here on my Blog, who help protect child sexual abusers, and who help silence victims.

      • little nel says:

        Unfortunately, silence and recanting are the only things that make a victim feel safe after the exposure of the abuse.

        It is very intimidating for the victim to testify in court with the added stress of the family’s hysterical reaction.

  2. little nel says:

    Alethea, I just did some reading about Shannon Moroney and her repeat offender, “The Gentile Giant” who only kills in a fit of rage.

    I wonder if Casey Anthony’s “rehab” will have the same results as in this case.

  3. ash says:

    I think that we should all start posting links when claiming something is fact.

    • Alethea says:

      Hello Ash. I have never enforced such a rule at my Blog, and I won’t start now. The reason is as follows:

      Much of my research was done with BOOKS, journals, interviews, and done in medical and university libraries. I don’t have the time to go through all of my research and find every citation for those who are ignorant of the realities of child sexual abuse.

      In addition, I do not read other people’s links which support their opinion, because many times those links are associated with groups or individuals who have an agenda, or who are COMPLETELY one-sided in their thinking. I would also have to take the time to research the link, research the person who did the study, read the study etc etc. I simply don’t have time to sift through what is reputable information, and what is crap. I don’t have time to sift through what has been given to me via the Internet, via a stranger. I do read many of the links from readers who have gained my trust, but I don’t get into Internet/Link debates with anonymous posters.

      People can read what I write and take it as they will. People have to do their own research, and make their own conclusions. I have no need to convince any certain reader of anything.

      Most survivors of child sexual abuse know that what I have said about women who don’t protect their children, and about female sexual abusers, is true. Because most of them have LIVED it in one form or another.

  4. Anonymous says:

    “Women who allow their children to be sexually abused over and over again, without helping them, are HOLDING THE CHILD HOSTAGE FOR SEXUAL PURPOSES.”

    This is sooooo untrue. Most often in these cases the women either do not know about the abuse or they also are victims of abuse by the dominant male in the household and therefore do not report the abuse due to fear of the dominant man or fear of losing the dominant man. Remember, the bible says that a woman’s craving will be for her husband and he will dominate her. This is clearly what we have seen throughout history and into our modern time- sexually and physically dominant men abusing women and children. This is fact. When a man commits an act of pedophilia it is usually triggered by an unnatural attraction to prepubescent bodies. When a woman commits an act of pedophilia there are a host of other reasons why she does this and one of those reasons is NOT that she is turned on by children.

    • Alethea says:

      Anonymous, do your research. It has been found that at least 45% of women willingly do not protect their children from a child sexual abuser in the home (this statistic is probably higher than 45%), and their reasons are: because of jealousy, they think the child is at fault, they offer the child up to the man so they don’t have to have sex anymore, they want to keep the paychecks coming in, or they willingly turn a blind eye because they do not want to see what is happening.

      And fear is no excuse for a woman to not protect a child, because fear is related to the woman’s own self-survival, which is evil. The self is evil. The woman in fear is sacrificing her child for her own self-protection. And again, these cases are the exception, not the norm.

      “When a man commits an act of pedophilia it is usually triggered by an unnatural attraction to prepubescent bodies. When a woman commits an act of pedophilia there are a host of other reasons why she does this and one of those reasons is NOT that she is turned on by children.”

      Excuse me, but please enlighten yourself. Most women do indeed sexually abuse children for reasons other than sexual stimulation, but many women DO, and have admitted to the sex acts turning them on.

      In addition, it is more disturbing and disgusting for a woman to sexually abuse a child because of her emotional problems, than it is for a man to do it. At least the male reason is more natural, instinctual (the male sex drive, being visually stimulated etc).

      • little nel says:

        To Anonymous:

        Mother’s know 100% of the time that their child is being sexually abused. They can tell by the behavior of the abuser.
        The abuser looks at the child with a sexual “gleam” in the eye and looks at the child’s tush a lot. The abuser gives the child special favors and tries to spend alone time with the child.
        The abuser makes remarks about the physical attractiveness of the child and how “mature” the child behaves.
        The mother usually gets confirmation from the child or catches them in the act.

        The Bible states that because of sin there is a consequence or curse for women. The consequence is that she will crave her husband, but he will rule over her. The Bible also gives us a remedy for this sin. It is through redemption. The “seed” of the woman will crush the serpents head. This is the antidote for fear and guilt.

        • Alethea says:

          The other thing too Little Nel, is that many times the man is giving the child too many baths, or taking the child with them to run errands, or to go to a lot of movies etc etc. The woman –happy that she has more free time to herself and less work to do– IGNORES her instincts that something is not right. She IGNORES them out of her self-need. The boyfriend or the husband is taking a load off her shoulders, and because that helps her, she ignores her gut or neglects to investigate, or put a stop to the numerous baths, because she is now enjoying her freedom.

          “Anonymous” seems to be living in some kind of fantasy universe where women are all victims of men, where the majority protect their child, and where they don’t ever get sexually stimulated by a child.

      • Anonymous says:

        Lady,

        I do not know where you are getting your false statistics from. YOU need to do your research. You seem to have a deep seated hatred for women and this leads you to misinterpret reality. The FACTS are that WAAAAAAAAAAY more men sexually abuse children than women and WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY more men that sexually abuse women than women who sexually abuse men. And to say that it is more “natural” and “instinctual” for a man to abuse a child than a woman, well that is just sick. You have very serious problems if you think it is more “disgusting” for one sex to abuse children than it is for another. I would suggest some INTENSIVE therapy.

        • Alethea says:

          “Anonymous,” I never said that more women sexually abuse children than men. I never implied that either. Try reading my posts without anger, and without a need to defend women.

          And many men who rape or abuse, were sexually abused as children by a woman. You can’t deny that.

          You also might want to check out my post that explains my reasoning about women who sexually abuse, being worse than men who do:
          https://ordinaryevil.wordpress.com/2011/03/12/breaking-social-taboos-about-femalefemale-child-sexual-abuse/

          “I would suggest some INTENSIVE therapy.”

          Thank you, but I am already in intensive therapy, and it has helped me to see and hear with my eyes and ears, and not with my biases, or with my sex, or with any hatred one way or another for men or women. Try to be more open to uncomfortable truths, and less protective of a certain sex.

          And if you read my post that I linked above, and want to have some intelligent dialogue -instead of using personal attacks- let me know.

          😉

          • Alethea says:

            Oh, and by the way, most every human being on this planet needs intense therapy. Only most of them don’t think they do, and that is FAR worse than having good intensive therapy. Most people don’t even understand their own mind, much less the subconscious mind. Most people prefer alcohol, socializing, prescription drugs, illegal drugs, problems with food, surgery, relationship problems, divorces, affairs, hypocritical religious beliefs, driving themselves in sports or work, and attacking others… than to have intensive therapy. So I am forever grateful to God for helping me to get past my own ego to see that I needed help and to get it.

    • Anonymous says:

      I agree, Alethea. Mother’s who protect their children are uncommonly courageous.

      Reporting abuse is not for cowards. It is very difficult to get a conviction for sex offenders who target children.

  5. little nel says:

    I know a mother who caught her husband sexually abusing her son. She called the police and reported it after rescuing her son.

    All her children were removed by the CPS and placed into foster homes pending the outcome of the trial which took more than a year. She was the only witness at the trial.

    She was trashed by the husband’s attorney on the witness stand. Her husband never took the stand or had to be cross examined. Nothing happened to him legally.

    When she got her children back, she moved 600 miles away from the abuser and went into hiding with her children out of fear of retaliation. He threatened to hurt them to punish her for reporting him.

    Reporting an abusive spouse has serious repercussions.

    • Alethea says:

      Little Nel, I am sure you would agree that NOT reporting child sexual abuse has even more serious consequences. Part of doing the right thing, part of speaking the truth, part of getting involved in trying to stop evil and to protect children is that serious consequences can occur. Doing the right thing is rarely easy or painless.

      And I can guarantee that the child in that case will be much healthier and happier, will have less psychological and physical problems, and less relationship and behavioral problems in his life than those of us who were not protected by our mothers.

      • little nel says:

        I agree, Alethea. It takes a courageous mother to protect her child.

        Predators are very cunning and usually go for the children of women that they think are easily duped, preoccupied, or spineless.

  6. pamela judd says:

    i think we all no women abuse children,i find no excuse to say oh i was abused as child,wouldnt you want to protect your child so they didnt go threw what you did as child, sex offenders,abusers have to make excuses,not good enough

  7. Andre' says:

    That’s interesting. Its a vicious cycle between men and women, but it would explain a missing oart of the puzzle.
    Im not clear on this “following which a TV show, This Morning, opened its lines to survivors of female sex abuse. The studio was overwhelmed by over 1,000 calls, 90% women, none of whom had ever before disclosed their secret.” disclose which secret ? That %90 of the women were abused by women ?

  8. Anonymous says:

    Women and men are different sexually. This is a fact. Very few woman are sexual predators or pedophiles and when they do commit an act of pedophilia it does not turn them on like it does a man. How many women have you heard of who have ABDUCTED, RAPED AND THEM MURDERED a child? I have not heard oF ANY. This is because women child predators are EXTREMELY RARE. The only women who do commit acts of pedophilia are women who have been screwed up sexually from being molested in their own childhood -99.9% OF THE TIME BY A MAN. Or women who are trying to please a man or who are abused by a man and are being forced to commit the abuse. Many of them are also schizophrenic and therefore cannot be held accountable for their actions. There are a few token women who have carried on affairs with teenage boys who have been in the media lately – but you can hardly consider it pedophilia when the woman was maybe in her 20’s or 30’s and the male was a fully sexually functioning male. These woman are not viewing the teenage male as a “child.” They are just immature mentally themselves and therefore carry on a relationship with a much younger person – this is the reason , it is not as if they are a pervy man who is turned on by prepubescence. Most teenagers are having many forms of sex nowadays and people in history married in their teens! . So to try to compare an older woman having sex with a fully compliant, fully sexually functioning male to a male pedophile is preposterous to say the least. You need to accept the fact that the vat majority of sex crimes are perpetrated by males and it will always be this way because of the nature of the beast.

    • Alethea says:

      Andre’ asks,“How many women have you heard of who have ABDUCTED, RAPED AND THEM MURDERED a child?”

      Off the top of my head..Melissa Huckaby, Karla Homolka, Sarah Louisa Northcott, and there are plenty more.

      Abducted a child for sexual purposes: Nancy Garrido, Janice Hooker, the list can go on and on. You can add to the list, EVERY MOTHER WHO WILLINGLY HOLDS HER CHILD CAPTIVE IN THE HOME WHERE HER HUSBAND, SON, OR BOYFRIEND ARE SEXUALLY ABUSING THE CHILD. This number reaches in the hundreds of thousands. Women who allow their children to be sexually abused over and over again, without helping them, are HOLDING THE CHILD HOSTAGE FOR SEXUAL PURPOSES. In addition, many of those women are sexually abusing the child along with the man.

      • Alethea says:

        I just saw a documentary last night on Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka, the “Ken and Barbie” murderers. The video tapes that the two filmed of their victims being raped and murdered, showed that Karla was a willing participant, enjoyed the sex acts with her victims, and the FBI profiler said she was even more psychopathic than Paul Bernardo.

    • Alethea says:

      “The only women who do commit acts of pedophilia are women who have been screwed up sexually from being molested in their own childhood -99.9% OF THE TIME BY A MAN.”

      Oh? and where do you get this statistic? You are WRONG. Sometimes, they were sexually abused by a woman.

      “Or women who are trying to please a man or who are abused by a man and are being forced to commit the abuse.”

      Stop right there buddy. You have NO idea what you are talking about. I have plenty of articles on my Blog that talk about the many women who sexually abuse kids on their own. This idea that ‘women only to do it to please a man, or because they are forced’ is a dangerous lie and a slap in the face to victims who have been sexually abused by a woman, and who did it on her own.

      “Many of them are also schizophrenic and therefore cannot be held accountable for their actions.”

      SOME of them are. Not “many.”

      “You need to accept the fact that the vat majority of sex crimes are perpetrated by males and it will always be this way because of the nature of the beast.”

      I KNOW that Andre’. And you need to “accept the fact” that sometimes women sexually abuse children out of their own degenerate will, with no coercion from a man, and sometimes…. because it can turn them on. Your defense of degenerate women is an injustice to truth and to the child victims of these women.

      • little nel says:

        “Women sexually abuse children out of their own degenerate will” is what happened to me at age 9.

        I was her “captive” because she was a “matron” employed by the County of Los Angeles, Dept. of Probation, who supervised children in a County home called Julia Laythrope Hall.

        She had an evil look in her eye, is what I remember. She enjoyed what she did to children who had no power to stop her.

        • Alethea says:

          Thank you Little Nel. It is personal experience that speaks volumes. Many women DO ENJOY what they do to kids. They can be sadistic, twisted, disturbed human beings.

          It doesn’t help anyone to defend the female gender by making women out to be superior, or weaker, or incapable of thinking and doing evil. It especially does not help child victims! “Anonymous” needs to get that.

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