The Examiner –“Our focus has not been upon alleged serial child sex predator, Jerry Sandusky and his alleged victims. Perhaps it’s time to share the cold, hard facts about child sex predators and their victims. The only fact that needs to be shared regarding alleged serial child sex predator, Jerry Sandusky is that where there are 8, there are most likely 800.”
Yep, that is absolutely correct. Male pedophiles have a high rate of having countless victims, who never come forward.
“Psychological effects of sexual abuse:
- Fear – Sexual abuse is usually accompanied by coercion, bribery or threats. The child is afraid to tell because of what the consequences might be. e.g. punishment, blame, abandonment or not being believed.
- Helplessness/powerlessness – Children in this situation often feel that they have no control over their own lives or even over their own bodies. They feel that they have no choices available to them.
- Guilt and Shame – The child knows something is wrong and blames him or herself not others. The offender will often encourage the child to feel that the abuse is his or her fault and sometimes s/he will feel that s/he is a “bad” person.
- Responsibility – The offender often makes the child feel responsible for keeping the abuse a secret.
- Isolation – Sex abuse victims feel different from other children.
- Betrayal – Children feel betrayed because they are dependent upon adults for nurturing and protection and the offender is someone who they should be able to trust. They may also feel betrayed by a non-offending adults who they feel have failed to protect them.
- Anger – Not surprisingly this is one of the strongest feelings, which many children have about their sexual assault. Children may feel anger against the perpetrator and also against others who they feel failed to protect them.
- Sadness – Children may feel grief due to a sense of loss, especially if the perpetrator was loved and trusted by the child.
- Flashbacks – These can be like nightmares, which happen while the child is awake. They are a re-experience of the sexual assault and the child may experience all the feelings a gain, which they felt at the time. This is also known as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.”
— Please note, that when the child becomes an adult, the triggers are often SUBCONSCIOUS, and the person might feel anger or rage, or they may over-react to a seemingly benign situation, but will not consciously know why they are behaving or feeling badly.
“Long term effects as an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse often include the following:
- Depression, anxiety, trouble sleeping.
- Low self esteem.
- “Damaged goods” syndrome. i.e. negative body image due to self-blame. This may be intensified if physical pain was experienced during the abusive incidents.
- Dissociation from feelings to the point of living an emotional “double-life.” (or a feeling of being separated from life and others).
- Social isolation.
- Relationship problems such as an inability to trust, poor social skills or a reluctance to disclose details about themselves.
- Self-destructive behavior such as self-mutilation or substance abuse.
- Sexual difficulties such as fear of sex or intimacy or indiscriminate multiple sex partners.” (and for those who are abused by an adult of the same sex, confusion about their sexual orientation).
- “Parenting problems such as fear of being a bad parent, or fear of abusing the child or being overprotective.”
…and the author of this article left out all the physical problems that many survivors of sexual abuse have as adults.
“So while everyone is busy arguing whether or not Joe Paterno should have been fired and speculating the ulterior motives of Governor Corbett’s support for the removal of Graham Spanier, as a society, do we not have a moral obligation to do all the we can to support the victims?”
Yes, and that support includes condemning those who know about abuse and do nothing to stop it, or even holding them criminally liable.