Virginia Woolf Lied to Her Own Inner Child

English novelist Virginia Woolf says she was sexually abused by her two half brothers. Woolf recorded her experiences in her twenty-four volume diaries and claims that her sister was also molested by the brothers.

Woolf wrote that she did not tell her parents because she knew they would protect her abusers. Woolf suffered from depression and Bipolar Disorder for many years, and it is clear that the incest disturbed her life in profound ways.

According to biographer Louise DeSalvo, Woolf’s denial system began to seriously affect her, after she read Freud’s theory of repressed memories of sexual abuse being a result of a sexual fantasy. Woolf began to suffer from the devastating damage that denial can do to a survivor of child sexual abuse.

Like most children, Woolf did not want to believe that she had been the victim of incest and unloved by her parents, so she instead chose to accept Freud’s conclusions and eventually denied the incest.

The battle between reality and her denial system caused Woolf to plummet into mental chaos and she subsequently felt that she was insane. Virginia Woolf also ended up doing exactly what many victims of sexual abuse do; she began to unjustly honor and worship her parents, whom she felt did not protect her from her abusers.

There is no doubt that Woolf’s glorification of her parents added to her feelings of insanity; because the child within knows the truth and revolts against the lies that we try and tell ourselves.

I am certain that Virginia Woolf’s inability to function in life, her “nervous breakdowns,” and ultimate suicide, were the result of the incest, and ignoring and lying to the child victim inside of her.



The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Affects of Cruel Parenting, Alice Miller, W.W. Norton & Company, 2005, pages 54-55,

Wikipedia Online Encyclopedia

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8 Responses to Virginia Woolf Lied to Her Own Inner Child

  1. Reblogged this on My Life as a Psy-Eroticologist and commented:
    This blog, I feel, very much captures the tenuous balance between the abuser and the abused. In cases of childhood sexual abuse…it is a struggle that spans a lifetime often with many unexpected turns. xxx c.

  2. little nel says:

    Virginia Wolfe Lied to her Own Inner Child.

    We just pick up where our parents left off. Been there, done that.

    Denial leaves a person with feelings of confusion and craziness. “Mental chaos” is a good description of the ups and downs of denial.

    “She began to unjustly honor her parents …etc.” I remember when I did that by agreeing with the lies and validating them in an effort to gain love but failed to get the love that I thought that I should get. Then the anger set in.

  3. Andre' says:

    With internet you have the world at your fingertips. You dont need a major publisher anymore if you set up your business right. There are many internet radio shows you can use as a platform as a featured guest to launch your book. Etc

    • Alethea says:

      Thank you Andre’

      I do know there are many other ways to go, but I have to really sit down and make a decision. You reminded me about radio though. Thanks so much. That was a big help.


  4. Your posts are incredible – you need to publish. You are true angel to overcome your devastation I know what hard work it is. When I have time I am going to hook your blog up to many sexual abuse prevention organizations I work with. THANK YOU!

    • Alethea says:

      Thanks Tiffini. You don’t know how badly I want to get my two manuscripts published. But with the economy and, the new rules etc. in the publishing industry, it won’t happen that way. I have to self-publish, which makes me cringe. But I also need to figure out the best way to do that.

      Thanks so much for your support and for giving my Blog any attention it can get.

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