Here is part two of Marilyn Van Derbur’s Interview.
I love Marilyn, and agree with her 99% of the time, but I don’t agree with her when she says that teenagers don’t know that the sexual abuse of their younger, vulnerable siblings, is wrong unless we talk to them.
Teenagers absolutely know right from wrong. They are not developed enough in their brain to understand the consequences of what they are doing, but they know it is wrong to rape, molest, or sexually abuse a younger child.
If they did not know it was wrong, they would not do it in private, and they would not tell their victims to keep it a secret.
I also hope that when she gives her speeches and talks to victims and survivors, that Marilyn stresses the point that it is not just brothers violating other siblings; it is also sisters who sexually violate their little sisters.
But I love what Marilyn told that man on the train, who asked her if she is going to talk about “it” [the incest] again. She defiantly told him, “I am going to talk about it until my last breath.”
I also love the the fact that Marilyn understands the wisdom of the victim being more angry at the person who knew, and did nothing to stop the abuse, than they are at the abuser.