The final victim took the stand last week. (Other people can call them accusers, or use the word “alleged” but I won’t minimize these men. Their testimony makes it clear that they were victims of a serial child sexual abuser.)
The final victim, a now 18-year-old man, was barely audible because he was speaking so softly. He told how the grooming began, and told the court that, as a child, he told his mother he did not want to return to Jerry Sandusky’s home because Sandusky was too “touchy-feely.” The boy’s mother made him go back to Jerry’s house because she felt he was a “good influence” on her son.
*Parents, this should a be a lesson to you. If your child does not like someone, or they protest being alone with a family member, or say someone is making them feel uncomfortable in any way…. investigate the root cause of those complaints and don’t allow your child around that person anymore.
“…the witness said that physical, sexually-charged contact with Sandusky started almost immediately. At the time he weighed just 67 pounds. “He made me suck his penis,” he said with a big sigh. “Did you want to do it?” Prosecutor Joe McGettigan asked in a gentle tone. “No. [But] what was I gonna do? Look at him. He’s a big guy, way bigger than me.” “How many times did this happen?” asked McGettigan. “Every weekend,” he replied. “About 100, maybe 150 times.”
The prosecutor then asked the victim, “Did he do anything else to your body?”
“He put his penis in my butt,” the witness said bluntly. “He got real aggressive and he forced me into it. There was no fighting against it,” he said in a dejected tone. “Sometimes I’d scream, tell him to get off of me.”
It happened again, he said, “A few times … until I grew a pair of balls. I had enough of it. I called my mom to come pick me up ‘cause I had a cell phone, finally.” He was 15 when he refused to return to the Sandusky household.
Then Sandusky’s attorney, Joe Amendola, cross-examined the witness and brought out even more damaging testimony.
“So, you say Mr. Sandusky had anal sex with you?” Amendola asked.
“Yes,” the young man replied.
“Did you ever need medical attention?” Amendola continued, as the hulking Sandusky sat just an arm’s-length away.
“Did you ever bleed?” he pressed.
“Yes. But I just dealt with it. I have different ways of coping with things,” the witness explained, keeping his eyes on the floor, reluctant to look in Sandusky’s direction.
“You say you screamed?” the defense attorney asked. And the young man with the eye patch said,“Yeee-ah.”
“Was Mrs. Sandusky home?”
“Yes,” he answered. “But I think the basement is soundproof. It’s a big basement.”
Or Dottie chose not to hear, and what the hell did she think her husband was doing in the basement with little boys? Who allows that? Who thinks it is normal for a grown man to be alone with little boys, unrelated to him, for many hours in the basement of his home?
Another one of Sandusky’s victims took the stand last week. He is now a 25-year-old sergeant in the Army National Guard. The man told how Sandusky took him to football games and family functions. The young man told the packed courtroom:
“It was awesome. I loved it. He was like a father to me.” But when alleged sexual contact began in the Penn State showers and the Sandusky’s basement bedroom, this witness said, he never said anything to anyone—not for three years. With his head hanging and in a whispered tone he said, “I was enjoying the other things I was getting too much. I loved him.” The sergeant said that Sandusky would sexually rub him down in the Penn State showers and fondle him into an erection in the basement. “I knew I wasn’t supposed to have one from a man,” he said in an embarrassed tone. “It wasn’t natural for an older man to—” His voice trailed off. “He said I was like part of his extended family.” But when this witness began to act out in antisocial ways, his mother sent him off to foster care. “I was mad, raged, and hurt that [Sandusky] could just forget about me. I prayed that he would find me, get me out of there. Adopt me or something.”
The reporter who wrote this article says, “After a three-year relationship, the witness said, he never heard from Sandusky again.”
It wasn’t a “relationship.” It was a boy being sexually molested for three years. People think that if a child or teenager is enjoying the attention, gifts, sexual stimulation, and a form of much needed “love” from the abuser then it isn’t sexual abuse or traumatic for them.
It is emotionally devastating, and for some victims, especially painful when the abuse ends.
It is sexual abuse in every sense of the term –maybe even more so than in cases where the child is not taking pleasure in the sexual acts or attention– because in this case, the perpetrator has warped the child’s idea of what love is, and caused them to think that their only self-worth comes from their sexuality. This kind of child sexual abuse makes the child or teenager think there is something seriously wrong with them as a human being because they liked the sexual acts and loved their abuser like a lover.
I speak from personal experience on this.
Dottie Sandusky is on the defense’s witness list. If, after all of these men have told of child rape and oral rape, Dottie still decides to put herself up there, it should be interesting to say the least.