I have a list of actors that I feel were probably sexually abused as young children, or raped as teens, and are repressing the memories or just not speaking publicly about it.
I keep it private because I don’t know for certain if these people were sexually abused or not. But every once in a while, an actor that was on my list comes out with their story. Farrah Fawcett has passed away, so I will reveal that she is on my list. May she rest in peace.
Tatum O’Neal has come out about being sexually abused as a child.
I don’t know how I missed Ashley Judd’s media exposure in April of 2011. I was certainly on top of the subject of child abuse with media and email alerts. For some reason, it was not meant for me to hear about Ashley Judd’s experience until yesterday. Ashley was on my list.
“The actress tells her story in a new memoir, digs up scary childhood memories
Ashley Judd may have grown up surrounded by music. But that doesn’t mean that her life was all that great of a song, as the actress reveals in her new book, All That Is Bitter & Sweet. In fact, according to her memoir, she suffered painful memories of sexual abuse, which led her into a deep depression, according to Radar Online.
From the story she tells, it definitely sounds like she was weathering a lot of changes at such a young age: her mom’s divorce from her dad when she was 4, going to 13 different schools between the ages of five and 13, and being raped by an older man when she was still a young girl living in Kentucky.
According to the Enquirer (via Celebitchy), “Ashley writes that she was abused as a child by an older stranger and that no one believed her, that she was raped as a teen, and that she was a victim of sexual abuse from an unnamed relative but didn’t remember it until the memories came up when she was in therapy…
“Ashley [also ] said that as a child she was exposed to inappropriate sexuality, loud sex in the next room, and witnessed her mother in epic fights with men, including one during which Naomi pulled a gun.”
It was in 2006 when Ashley herself decided to get treatment for the issues she’d faced and it was during that time that repressed memories surfaced about Ashley’s sexual abuse.
Now those are some memories to just repress like that! Especially given such an intense childhood.”
Notice how the writer of the article questions Ashley’s memories and practically calls her a liar without actually doing so? Ms. Nunez totally ignores the fact that Ashley’s mother and sisters have supported her, and that her father and mother love her very much. Her mother says she hopes Ashley’s book does well. No one in Ashley’s immediate family has even been accused of the sexual abuse, and Ms. Nunez has still deliberately tried to create disbelief, and to mock Ashley Judd.
But, what does her family think about her putting the secrets on the table, you wonder? Well, Ashley said that the book was written with the consent of her mother and sister, who didn’t look all that pretty in the family tale.
“My mother has read the book. I certainly gave it to my sister. I don’t know if she’s read it yet, but she absolutely supports what I’ve done,” Ashley told USA Today. “I gave everyone ample opportunity to be familiar with the text.”
Ashley’s career has kind of had a lull but we’re sure the buzz of the new book and revealing family secrets will get her noticed again. But now we have to wonder: why do you think about her recalling these memories now?”
Here Ms. Nunez calls Ashley’s memories, a “family tale,” and makes it clear that she thinks Ms. Judd has come up with a fantasy in order to gain media attention and maybe land a film. Marilyn Monroe was accused of the same thing when she went public about her childhood sexual abuse.
Ms. Nunez has no idea what this kind of attitude can do to survivors and current victims of child sexual abuse. Every mocking, disbelieving, snide comment has the potential to cause another victim or survivor to be disbelieved and scoffed at if they dare to speak openly about having had repressed memories of child sexual abuse.
It’s like Marilyn Van Derbur said, “If people aren’t going to believe 53 year-old me, then who by God is going to believe a child?”