Actress Ashley Judd Blocked Out Childhood Sexual Abuse

I have a list of actors that I feel were probably sexually abused as young children, or raped as teens, and are repressing the memories or just not speaking publicly about it.

I keep it private because I don’t know for certain if these people were sexually abused or not. But every once in a while, an actor that was on my list comes out with their story. Farrah Fawcett has passed away, so I will reveal that she is on my list. May she rest in peace.

Tatum O’Neal has come out about being sexually abused as a child.

I don’t know how I missed Ashley Judd’s media exposure in April of 2011. I was certainly on top of the subject of child abuse with media and email alerts. For some reason, it was not meant for me to hear about Ashley Judd’s experience until yesterday. Ashley was on my list.

“The actress tells her story in a new memoir, digs up scary childhood memories

Ashley Judd may have grown up surrounded by music. But that doesn’t mean that her life was all that great of a song, as the actress reveals in her new book, All That Is Bitter & Sweet. In fact, according to her memoir, she suffered painful memories of sexual abuse, which led her into a deep depression, according to Radar Online.

From the story she tells, it definitely sounds like she was weathering a lot of changes at such a young age: her mom’s divorce from her dad when she was 4, going to 13 different schools between the ages of five and 13, and being raped by an older man when she was still a young girl living in Kentucky.

According to the Enquirer (via Celebitchy), “Ashley writes that she was abused as a child by an older stranger and that no one believed her, that she was raped as a teen, and that she was a victim of sexual abuse from an unnamed relative but didn’t remember it until the memories came up when she was in therapy…

Ashley Judd Memoir

“Ashley [also ] said that as a child she was exposed to inappropriate sexuality, loud sex in the next room, and witnessed her mother in epic fights with men, including one during which Naomi pulled a gun.”

It was in 2006 when Ashley herself decided to get treatment for the issues she’d faced and it was during that time that repressed memories surfaced about Ashley’s sexual abuse.

Now those are some memories to just repress like that! Especially given such an intense childhood.”

Notice how the writer of the article questions Ashley’s memories and practically calls her a liar without actually doing so? Ms. Nunez totally ignores the fact that Ashley’s mother and sisters have supported her, and that her father and mother love her very much. Her mother says she hopes Ashley’s book does well. No one in Ashley’s immediate family has even been accused of the sexual abuse, and Ms. Nunez has still deliberately tried to create disbelief, and to mock Ashley Judd.

But, what does her family think about her putting the secrets on the table, you wonder? Well, Ashley said that the book was written with the consent of her mother and sister, who didn’t look all that pretty in the family tale.

“My mother has read the book. I certainly gave it to my sister. I don’t know if she’s read it yet, but she absolutely supports what I’ve done,” Ashley told USA Today. “I gave everyone ample opportunity to be familiar with the text.”

Ashley’s career has kind of had a lull but we’re sure the buzz of the new book and revealing family secrets will get her noticed again. But now we have to wonder: why do you think about her recalling these memories now?”

Here Ms. Nunez calls Ashley’s memories, a “family tale,” and makes it clear that she thinks Ms. Judd has come up with a fantasy in order to gain media attention and maybe land a film. Marilyn Monroe was accused of the same thing when she went public about her childhood sexual abuse.

Ms. Nunez has no idea what this kind of attitude can do to survivors and current victims of child sexual abuse. Every mocking, disbelieving, snide comment has the potential to cause another victim or survivor to be disbelieved and scoffed at if they dare to speak openly about having had repressed memories of child sexual abuse.

It’s like Marilyn Van Derbur said, “If people aren’t going to believe 53 year-old me, then who by God is going to believe a child?”

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15 Responses to Actress Ashley Judd Blocked Out Childhood Sexual Abuse

  1. little nel says:

    I have a friend who was a child actress. She says that she was has no memories of sexual abuse in childhood, but she has a lot of the adult behaviors that indicate that she was abused.

    I know that her acting coach was exposed as a child molester years later after another student of his sought therapy for depression.

  2. little nel says:

    Ashley Judd has probably been in therapy for a long time and has come to understand herself, so the confusion has been replaced with clarity.

    Depression is the number one reason that women go into therapy.

    She probably doesn’t need the money, but the exposure of telling her story is part of her healing. This is a woman who has suffered sexual abuse, told about the abuse and was not believed, then stored it away, only to have it come back in adulthood with all it’s ugliness and confusion.

    I hope that her book helps her to find peace and recovery.

  3. mary says:

    I know very little about Farah Fawcett’s life and career other than that she was a Charlie’s Angel. I’m curious, what is it about her that makes you think she was sexually abused as a child? For me, Michael Jackson is definitely on that list, his insomnia, drug addictions, pedophilia, extreme reactions towards seeing his father, etc are all indicative of a man who as a child was sexually, financially, and mentally exploited and abused. I also tend to think the Olsen twins were as well, but one can never be sure.

    • Alethea says:

      Hi Mary.

      Cathartic re-enactment of emotional pain can be accomplished through methods like acting. Although not as effective as hypnotherapy, actors frequently do this cathartic release in their film roles. This can be observed by the roles they repeatedly choose and by their acting performance during scenes in which they are being assaulted, or while protecting a child. Some people might think these actors have been “type-cast” into these roles but it is likely that they subconsciously choose to repeatedly accept certain films or TV movies in order to purge emotions and traumas that need to be discharged. In doing so, they help themselves for a time, but until the root cause is dealt with, they will be subconsciously driven to continue to play a certain role. They will also portray the character very well because the “acting” in a particular scene is based on a true experience.

      Three roles of Farrah Fawcett play a part in my feeling that she was sexually abused, or at least physically abused in her childhood. The Burning Bed, Extremities, and Small Sacrifices. In the Burning Bed, it was severe physical abuse (I think her husband raped her too), and in Extremities, it was a rapist that she battled. In both films, she was incredibly good –as if she was re-living an experience but acting out a different outcome for herself in the role by overpowering the perpetrator.

      In Small Sacrifices, she played Diane Downs, the mother who killed her two children and severely wounded the third. But the film is based on a true story, and in the film, there is clear indication to me that the father of Diane Downs probably sexually abused her as a child, or at least physically abused her. The real Diane Downs had at one time said she was sexually abused as a child.

      And wasn’t Farrah a victim of her abusive husband in The Apostle? If I am not mistaken, Farrah was having domestic trouble when she was married to Ryan O’Neal, no? Interesting to me that Tatum was sexually abused as a child, and one of her perpetrators was her father’s long-time friend. Tatum also “dated” Michael Jackson.

      Life always comes full circle for those who have not healed their wounds. We humans continue to seek out people, employers, and situations that trigger our unresolved pasts until we heal that past in full.

      Farrah also relied on her sexuality for much of her career and she died of anal cancer, which is the signal that she has a deep unresolved resentment/pain about someone.

      I feel very sorry for her that she died of such a painful disease. May she rest in peace now. I think she was a good soul.

      • Alethea says:

        Another example of this cathartic re-enactment is Natalie Wood. She is not on my list, but it is well known that she had serious issues with her mother. There is a scene in “Splendor in the Grass” (a great film by the way) in which you can see Natalie totally releasing pent up rage for her real mother. The director said he stirred up Natalie’s feelings for her real mother just before the scene, so he could get the anger he wanted in the shot.

        • little nel says:

          Natalie Wood was a rape victim also.

          • Alethea says:

            If you are talking about the Kirk Douglas accusation, I can believe it.

            I bet there were/are many rapes in the entertainment industry by big names who know their victim’s career will be ruined if they report it.

            • little nel says:

              An actress friend told me that Warren Beatty attacked her when she got into a car with him on a date. She was afraid to report it because she had a job at the time and didn’t want to loose it.

      • little nel says:

        “she died of anal cancer, which is the signal that she has a deep unresolved resentment/pain about someone.”

        I have read that some types of cancer are thought to be linked to resentment/pain about someone but I had no idea about Farrah Faucett’s case. I was saddened when I read about her illness and subsequent death.

        I once had a brief “run in” with her years ago. We both must have been having an emotionally challenging day at the time. I know that I was “on edge.”

        • Alethea says:

          That’s interesting because it has been my experience that people who have been sexually abused as children will cross each other’s paths. One example is that Mackenzie Phillips and I skated right by each other in the skating rink one night many many years ago. Our eyes locked in a sort of ‘I recognize you as a wounded soul.’ But I never thought about that until she came out about her father.

          • little nel says:

            When I read Mackenzie Phillips’ story about the incest, I believed her.

            When I read that Michelle Phillips said that Mackenzie was lying about it all because she used drugs, I got angry.

            Incest and child abuse are uncovered all the time in rehabs.

            It’s obvious that Michelle is part of the problem because she and her husband, the perp, used drugs too.

            • Alethea says:

              Yep, Michelle just fits in perfectly with all the women out there who choose not to see, not to know, not to hear. Then, when the truth shows its ugly self, they call the victim a liar.

    • little nel says:

      You are right about Micheal Jackson, Mary.

      Many people in the entertainment industry knew or suspected that his father was abusing him but Micheal never spoke about it when he was a child.

    • Katkitty says:

      MJ was never sexually abused by his father. If he had been he would never have allowed a man like that around his own children, and he did. Michael was physically abused, and emotionally, he was exploited, but that’s a whole different thing and needing to justify him being a pedophile (he wasn’t) by making up some fanfiction about his own father molesting him is pretty sick.

      Many people in the entertainment biz suspected Michael of all kinds of things — all since unproven even after 8 investigations by bodies like the FBI, DCFS, and three juries.

      • Alethea says:

        “MJ was never sexually abused by his father. If he had been he would never have allowed a man like that around his own children,..”

        KatKitty, I suppose you know he was never molested by your own personal knowledge? You have no idea what went on in that home, nor do I, but you are quite the hypocrite don’t you think? Your assertion that MJ was never sexually abused is no better and no worse than those of us who believe MJ sexually molested children.

        And you ought to educate yourself about how common it is for people, that have been sexually abused, to allow their children around their abuser.

        Your assertion that you know what went on in MJ’s home as a child, and your ignorance to how victims of abuse behave as adults, is what perpetuates child sexual abuse.

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