- Family members of the victim who say, “If you tell, you will hurt the family.”
- Family members of the perpetrator and law enforcement who say, “well, the parents say there is no abuse so the child must be lying.”
- Witnesses who see a child being raped or molested by a family member or a well-respected person, and tell themselves they did not see it.
- The abusers who say to themselves, “she wanted it,” “he liked it,”….”she doesn’t act like she is harmed, so it must be okay.”
- Mothers who choose to pretend the abuse is ‘not that harmful’ to the child, so they ignore it.
- The abusers who then say to themselves, “My wife is silent, so she is giving me the green light to continue.”
- Mothers who willfully believe the child is the sexual aggressor.
- Society who wants to think that child sexual abuse is ‘not that bad.’
- Society and family members of the victims who think child sexual abuse shouldn’t be that difficult to heal, or that if the child shows no real signs of harm, they will be ‘just fine.’
- Society and family members who tell the adult survivor, “get over it,” “move on with your life,” “don’t allow it to affect you,”….. “why can’t you just ‘let it go?'”
- Neighbors and members of church groups who say, “Oh, but he is a Christian and he does a lot of good for the community. He is such a nice man. He would never hurt a child.”
- Neighbors and members of church groups who say, “she could not have sexually abused a child! She is a mother!”
- Society and family members who say, “We don’t want to hear about that ugly topic. You are ruining our day.”
- Family members of the adult victim who say, “If you want to talk about this, you are not one of us anymore.”