For the coming New Year, I am doing a little research on the Louise Hay “you can heal your life” method.
Allow me to start by saying that I have great respect for her, because like me, she refused to accept the mainstream medical industry’s way of handling disease and illness.
Louise Hay is an author, lecturer, and founder of Hay House Publishing. She, like me, believes/knows that disease and illness are caused by the mind (especially anger, resentment, and guilt).
She believes, as I do, that anger, resentment, and guilt can literally eat away at the self in the form of cancer and tumors.
In her book, “Heal Your Body” Louise Hay outlines hundreds of diseases and conditions, and she lists the mental state of mind which brought the disease to the body. The problem with these lists is they are general. Every human being is unique and each person must search within themselves for the original root cause of the illness or disease.
However, Louise Hay does know the power of the mind because when she was diagnosed with vaginal cancer many years ago, she knew that if she allowed the doctor to operate on the cancer, without changing the mental pattern that created it, then her cancer would return.
Louise Hay believes, as I do, that if a person does not remove the root cause of the cancer, it will come back. If cancer returns, or shows up in another part of the body, it’s not that the doctors “didn’t get it all,” it’s that the person did not seek to find the root cause of the cancer in the first place –the disease in the mind, which created the dis-ease in the body.
When Louise Hay was diagnosed, she knew she had never acknowledged the deep resentment she was still hanging onto from being raped by a neighbor at age five.
Louise asked her doctor to give her three months to work on the deep resentment and mental patterns which created the cancer in the first place. Her physician reluctantly agreed, telling her the cancer could take her life.
Louise Hay healed the cancer by working with a “teacher” (it is unclear to me who helped her) to clear up her patterns of resentment. She also worked with a nutritionist to detoxify her body. Six months later, the medical professionals found that she was completely free from the cancer.
In my experience, positive thinking does not work for people who have been severely sexually abused, and or traumatized as a children, especially when they cannot recall all of the abuse, or any of it.
A person certainly cannot heal from trauma they do not even remember happening to them.
I am curious if any of my readers has been significantly helped by Louise Hay’s positive affirmations, or her “love yourself and change your mind” approach.
Positive thinking and affirmations can anger the subconscious mind, and a person can get worse, not better. In addition, if the positive affirmation does not work, a person can think, “what’s wrong with me?”
Louise Hay’s ‘heal your life’ approach seems to me, to be based in positive affirmations, superficial “letting go” and looking in the mirror and telling yourself “I love you.”
Frankly, I would not be surprised if looking in the mirror and saying “I love you” has not brought on a very negative reaction in many people –people like me, who have loathed themselves subconsciously and been so severely shamed by sexual abuse that they cannot stand being told something positive about themselves.
As I have written numerous times, I have healed from cfids, shingles, heart problems, bladder problems, IBS, migraines, and a whole list of ailments that affected every part of my body. I have also healed hot flashes and night sweats associated with menopause, and I have my eyesight back. With the exception of tiny print on bottles, I no longer need my reading glasses. Loss of eyesight is attributed to getting older, but it was healed in me because I had been ‘unwilling to see’ certain things about my childhood until this past year.
The hot flashes and night sweats were repressed anger and repressed fear, which shows that even our hormones are controlled by the mind.
But my original point was to say that positive affirmations have NEVER worked for me. Quite the contrary, I got very sick one day after trying positive affirmations because my subconscious mind got angry with them. My subconscious mind KNEW what I was saying was not true.
Positive affirmations might pull a person out of a temporary state of sadness or anger, by using an affirmation of gratitude, or by “looking at the bright side” but it won’t heal deep-rooted childhood trauma and deep-rooted emotional pain.
The one morning that I decided to try the “I am going to have a beautiful day” affirmation, that very morning, my beautiful chocolate Labrador Retriever, “Bear,” had a violent Grand Mal seizure and she has had seizures now for years.
In my view, this was my soul letting me know that the Universe (God/the Higher Hand/Our Divine Creator) is in charge, not me.
It was a very painful day. But instead of being bitter about my dog’s seizures, I thanked God for the honor of having been given this precious dog –to be her care-giver on earth…honored that God would choose me to have Bear as my dog.
I have a friend who just suddenly lost her boyfriend. He died tragically out of the blue, and she is now in a state of horrible emotional distress and displacement.
Some people use positive-thinking and “positive affirmations” to change their state of mind when they desire to bring a man into their life, but if the manifestation works, and the woman finds the love of her life, and he suddenly dies, then how will that woman react, if fate says his number is up? Does Louise Hay also teach people how to stay in peace and gratitude for life, even if they lose a child or their spouse to sudden death?
We cannot control life, and it is the ego-self that desires happiness through things, people, and relationships.
God gives man what we have, and we truly own nothing. We humans came into this world with nothing, and will leave this earth with nothing but what our consciousness has become.
Trust in God is essential, and key to life. That is what “faith” means.
Bottom line, I cannot stop my dog’s seizures, and no one can stop the Higher Hand of God. If someone ‘thinks up’ a nice house on the lake they want so baldy, how do they handle the moment the house burns to the ground because a day-worker left a paint-stain soaked rag on the wood deck in the hot sun? (this actually happened to someone I know).
Does Louise Hay talk about how to handle serious tragedy from a centered point of the mind, from a place that you can handle anything in your life, without being severely affected by it –by being in total peace with the situation?
Louise Hay teaches that your thoughts create your life, but this has not been my experience at all. As a matter of fact, even when I was anxious and fearful and always thinking bad things would happen to me, good things always happened to me.
Healing and changing my subconscious mind is what healed my life. Any person can use positive affirmations and change their ‘thinking’ in order to try and change their life, or heal their body, but the soul of the person will continue to put them in certain predicaments, situations, and with certain people in order to force them to deal with any underlying, unresolved pain, trauma, or emotional betrayal from childhood.
The ego-self (our lower nature) might “want” a new house, or a new car, or to heal a particular symptom or illness “right away.” But what the ego-self wants will not bring peace, or healing to us. Everything is in God’s time, and everything is given to us or taken from us according to the Divine Plan, and no one will set themselves free by conjuring up ‘the good life’ or a man to marry, or the perfect job etc. The soul wants to make its way back to God, and the only way to get there is through suffering and transformation. We must all bear our cross in one way or another.
John Lennon said, “life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.” I would change this quote for the moment, to “life is what happens to you, while you are busy doing positive affirmations and trying manifest your desires.”
I have never tried to positive think myself into the gifts God has given me. I have always been given things and lived places beyond my imagination, places that I never knew existed, so I could not have even manifested them. The physical suffering I have healed from has never been imagined, visualized, or thought up in my mind. Everything I have healed from, has always miraculously healed by healing and changing my subconscious mind.
The only Blessing in my life that I put my mind to, was when the doctors told me there is no cure or treatment for chronic fatigue immune dysfunction syndrome (known as cfs, or “momyalgic encephalomyelitis”) and I told myself that I would not accept that information. I distinctly remember that day, nearly two decades ago –the day I refused to accept that I was destined to pain and suffering with an incapacitating disease.
Yes, now THAT is positive thinking. But I did not know how I would accomplish this task, and suffered for another year before a friend of mine gave me the phone number of my therapist, who has forever changed my life, my being, my state of mind.
It was God who led me to my therapist. It was God who gave me the direction to call Dr. De Saint-Simone, and it was God who healed me.
I am curious if anyone knows about Louise Hay’s lectures or if anyone has read her books, and knows if she discusses how to heal from something when you have little memory of it, or when you have consciously forgiven the person who abused you and you still suffer from physical, or emotional problems? Because I know that I forgave my parents consciously many years ago. But my subconscious mind was holding onto crap I never knew existed until it came out in therapy and then, and only then, did the physical symptoms heal.
This idea of ‘change your thinking and you can change your life’ is, to me, in error and goes against what our soul’s journey is about –suffering and transformation.
If we do not humble ourselves to the will of the Higher hand of God –to the will of the Divine Master –we set ourselves up to be humbled by that Hand.
Everything in my life that I have ever received from God was given to me as a gift. Everything good, beautiful, and meaningful that has ever touched my life in profound ways, or has brought me great joy, was Graced to me by God Almighty. I have never visualized, imagined, or used positive thinking to conjure up my gifts. They came to me out of the blue, to my surprise, and without any help from me. Even when I did not believe in God for 25 years, I was Graced with incredible things, including a good man, and many miracles.
Jesus gave two commandments, not ten. He told us, “love God with all your mind, all your heart and all your soul” and “love your neighbor as yourself.” He told us that whatever we do to the least of our brother, we do to Him.
I know one thing for certain, there is a Universal Law that governs everything and everyone —what we do to the earth, its creatures, and to others will come back to us tenfold. How we approach our suffering and how we bear our cross, also has a profound affect on our lives.
This Universal law is cause and effect, or “action-reaction,” and this law plays no favorites. The law does not care what religious label a person places on themselves. We are all connected. Everything on this planet is connected. Quantum science has proven this.
Jesus did not go around telling us to imagine this, or that, and it will come true. He did not say that we need to ask for specific things, or to dictate to God what we desire. God knows what we need long before we do!
Loving mankind as I would myself is my positive affirmation. “Do not do to others what you would not want done to you” (this includes animals and nature) is my manifestation and visualization.
I am certain that Louise Hay is telling the truth about her vaginal cancer, and its cause, but I am sure she had to do some intense subconscious work to heal it.
I have two questions for my readers:
- Does anyone know if her lectures, books, or workshops talk about exactly how she healed her vaginal cancer?
- Has Louise Hay’s books, or positive affirmations healed you of serious disease or illness –to the point of total recovery from the disease, or from PTSD symptoms, nightmares, migraines, or any other trauma-related suffering?
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