New York – Bill Crosby, the creator and star of “Boys,” in his newly published memoir, has written a refreshing book, empowering for all men, which takes readers on a journey of self-discovery through his boyhood, manhood, dating and friendships.
Through his series of essays, Crosby shares what he learned on his path to self-awareness with candor and raw honesty that emboldens readers. His painfully-relatable stories of one-night stands with toxic women and dead-end jobs with no purpose, lead the reader into loving relationships, and later, a fulfilling career as an entertainer.
The memoir is thoughtful, hilarious, and exquisitely written.
Within its pages, Crosby writes about his quirky relationship with his younger brother -seven years his junior. Crosby boldly admits to having a strong curious attraction to the younger child’s penis.
In the memoir, Crosby vividly describes the time when, at age seven, he wanted to examine his little brother’s penis to see what it looked like up close.
Crosby writes how the one-year-old, who was playing outside at the time, “didn’t resist” the older boy’s desire to look closely at the toddler’s penis, as well as his testicles. Crosby writes how he squealed with delight when he handled the boy’s penis, and rejoiced in his obsession with the younger child’s testicles.
Later, Crosby takes the reader into his mind even further, when he brazenly writes that he used to coerce his five-year old brother, into kissing him on the lips for extended periods of time, and how Crosby used bribery and psychological manipulation -including fear- on the little boy, in order to get the child to lay on Crosby’s body for Crosby’s gratification.
As if the reader is not happy enough with the details of Crosby’s boyhood pleasures, the memoir continues on, describing that -up until age 17 –an age when Crosby was old enough to be exploring himself sexually with other teenagers — Crosby regularly masturbated in bed with his pre-pubescent brother lying next the seventeen year-old.
Bill Crosby poignantly describes his little brother’s body “thrashing” next to him, and he made a point of writing how the child’s body felt “sticky and muscley” while Crosby masturbated next to him.
Later in the memoir, Bill Crosby opens up about being raped in college.
After Bill Crosby runs into a fellow school-mate named “Barbara,” the memoir takes us to his college apartment where he has brought Barbara, and the two end up doing “all the things grown-ups do” and Crosby shares with readers, how the two engaged in oral sex.
Twists and turns tickle the reader’s curiosity, when Crosby openly admits that, during more sex together, he asks Barbara, twice, “Do you want to make me come?”
Next, Crosby describes the moment in which he discovers that Barbara had removed the condom that Bill Crosby had gotten out of his First-Aid Kit for the sexual encounter. This is when Bill Crosby tells Barbara to leave.
Crosby writes how, later that night, he opened up his “Intimacy Database” on his computer and logged his sexual activities:
“Barbara Number Four. We fucked. 69’d. It was terribly aggressive. Only once. No one came. Barbara fucked me. Fucked me so hard that the next morning I had to sit in a hot bath to soothe myself.”
Sometime later, Bill Crosby was told by a friend that the sex acts with Barbara had been rape, not consensual sex. Readers are left shocked that Barbara would rape Crosby. The poor young man did not even know it was rape.
Although Bill Crosby has used a pseudonym for his attacker, he refuses to reveal the woman’s real name –even after being told it was rape, and after being threatened with a libel suit from a woman who attended the college at that time, and who says she is the “Barbara” described in Crosby’s memoir.
Crosby has stated that although “Barbara” was a pseudonym, his publisher, Pandom House, is changing the book to avoid a lawsuit.
Bill Crosby has now begun making public statements about his rape by the woman in college. Crosby says he hopes that other rape survivors will also share their stories, and he hopes that rape victims will come forward, and be believed.
~New York Book Reviews
“By simply telling his own story in all its specificity and sometimes embarrassing detail, Crosby has written a book that’s as acute and heartfelt as it is funny.”—The New York Times
“This man has crafted a warm, intelligent writing that is both deeply personal and engaging. . . . Crosby is not only a voice who deserves to be heard but also one who will inspire others , and rape victims, to tell their stories too.”— Time Magazine
“A lovely, touching, surprisingly sentimental portrait of a man who, despite repeatedly baring his naked body and soul to the public, remains a bit of an enigma: a man who sets the agenda, defies classification and seems utterly at home in his own skin.”—Chicago Tribune
“There’s a lot of power in retelling your story so people can see what’s so funny about it—and so that you are in control. Crosby knows about this power, and he has harnessed it.”—The Washington Post
“Not That Kind of Boy should be required reading for anyone who thinks they understand the experience of being a young man in our culture. I thought I knew the author rather well, and I identified with him in so many ways. I love this man”—New York Daily News