Open Letter (letter #2) To Rape Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
1220 L Street, NW
Washington, DC 20005
January 23 2015
As of the date of this letter, I have not received any response to my three letters —each one mailed to your three major RAINN officers.
I am also personally aware of two other incest survivors, who voiced their concerns to your officers. To my knowledge, those survivors also have not received any response from RAINN.
The lack of response to our grave concerns indicates that RAINN does not know how to handle survivors of rape and incest, because if RAINN had skills in this regard, one of you would have replied to our letters –even if to disagree, but someone from your organization would have replied.
I was sexually abused by my much older teenage sister and sexually abused by my mother (and raped by my father). RAINN’s lack of response to me is like saying to my wounded child, “we support the women who abused you.” RAINN’s silence triggered my self-worth issues, depression, the feeling of “what’s the use?” and triggered being ignored, and unheard as a child. It was essentially a re-wounding for me as an incest survivor.
However, I worked through the emotional and psychological reaction to your silence. I am strong again, and your lack of response and your obvious continued support for Lena Dunham, has pushed me to take on your silence at a higher level of action.
Your silence indicates that Lena Dunham might be giving RAINN financial donations. If so, she is essentially paying you to support her and to ignore people like myself, and the countless other victims and survivors of sibling incest, and rape, who Lena Dunham has harmed, re-wounded, minimized, de-valued, and virtually laughed at.
In addition, any financial support Dunham is giving to RAINN, means your organization is hypocritical, and that Lena Dunham is buying your support of her book, “Not That Kind of Girl” —a book which normalizes sibling incest, laughs at child molestation, and puts children at risk.
Your support of Lena Dunham also means you support the brazen photos she posted of herself, and of her little sister as a young child –photos she posted for the public on the Internet.
I enclosed those two photos to each of you in my previous letters. One of those photos was very disturbing to a woman who was raped and tortured for three days at age 13. She now works with the FBI, helping them to stop child pornography, and online child exploitation. She helped me to report the photo Dunham posted of her then five-year-old sister, with fake breasts, make-up, and the caption, “Hell’s Angel’s Sex Property.” RAINN should be aware that members of the Hell’s Angel’s Organization have been linked to several cases of RAPE.
Enclosed with this letter is the latest disgusting photo that Lena Dunham posted of herself, the night of the Golden Globe Awards. This photo was taken a short time after Ms. Dunham decided to delete her Twitter account because she was ‘feeling afraid’ over people voicing their opinions of what she did to her sister, and says she wanted to “create a safer emotional space.”
Look at the enclosed photo. This woman is not afraid of anything. On the contrary, this photo shows the woman who called what she did to her little sister “basically anything a child sexual predator would do.” Lena Dunham is standing topless, holding one of her breasts, as if saying “screw everyone I offended by writing about what I did for ten years to my little sister.”
This photo brought up the image of my mother, in her bathrobe, wanting me to pleasure her sexually, and it is disturbing to any woman, or man, who was sexually abused by their older sisters, mothers, or any other woman or young adult female.
RAINN’s Facebook Page says, “Give the gift of hope.” RAINN’s silence with me, and RAINN’s continued approval of Lena Dunham, and RAINN’s refusal to retract public support of Ms. Dunham has taken away much of the hope I ever had that the children of this world will be protected by adults, and that survivors of rape and incest will be defended, or helped, by organizations such as yours.
Your Facebook Page also states, “Be part of RAINN’s legacy in supporting survivors.” You want financial donations, but RAINN does not support rape and incest survivors. If RAINN did its research online, it would have found that hundreds of thousands of people have expressed the same opinion I have about Lena Dunham. The only people who have supported her, and denied what she did to her sister -and who have defended the way she wrote about it- are the online entertainment media (because they are financially linked to her show “Girls”), the fans of her show, a few celebrities, and RAINN. The vast majority of the general public does not support this woman.
Subsequently, I will now attempt to contact any, or all, financial donators to your organization. I will voice myself to them with my concerns about your open support of Lena Dunham, and your outrageous lack of regard for incest survivors.
If Lena Dunham is giving you donations, then RAINN had better decide where its morals and principles are.
Do not mistake me for someone who will ‘just go away if we ignore her.’
On the contrary, RAINN’s silence about this matter has made me stronger, and I will be more vocal.
You cannot consider yourself an organization that helps, supports, or heals rape and incest survivors if you continue to support Lena Dunham. If you refuse to publicly retract your support of Lena Dunham, then RAINN has crossed over to ‘an organization which supports child sexual abuse, incest, and debauchery.’