Similarities Between Children Currently Suffering Abuse Can Determine Validity of Adult Memories of Child Sexual Abuse

I have compiled a list of evidence which can corroborate that a child has been sexually abused. I have added a parallel list consisting of what has been reported by adult survivors who, at one time, repressed childhood sexual abuse. Many factors can bolster the validity of a child’s accusation of sexual abuse, as well as an adult’s previously repressed memories of abuse.

  • Medical or physical evidence of abuse in a child: A child’s statement may be corroborated by medical, laboratory, scientific, or physical evidence.
  • Adult remembering child sexual abuse for the first time: Most adults, who blocked abuse from their mind, have multiple physical manifestations that research has linked to child sexual assault.
  • Changes in a child’s behavior: The child might demonstrate extreme anxiety, or masturbate on being questioned about the alleged sexual abuse. The victim can develop abnormal behavior following visits with the alleged perpetrator. The child can have nightmares, become ill, and refuse to allow others to touch them.
  • Adult remembering abuse: They suffer anxiety, nightmares, and have problems with being touched by others. The adult might have depression, bouts of anger, and are often promiscuous. They might have PTSD symptoms, and body memories that often predate the return of memories. Adults with amnesia for abuse they suffered as a child, frequently become extremely irritable following family visits or encounters with the person whom they eventually remember as their abuser.
  • Developmentally unusual sexual knowledge: Child displays unusual knowledge of sex acts, anatomy, or sexual terminology.
  • Adult remembering abuse: People who had Dissociative Amnesia for sexual abuse say, that as an adult, they “instinctively” knew how to give oral sex to a man the “first time” they performed it. It was as if they just knew exactly what to do, as if they had given fellatio many times before. In addition, frequent masturbation at a young age has been reported among those who experience delayed memory.  Sometimes, the adult who has repressed memories of child sexual abuse, will experience sexual stimulation at inappropriate times, for unknown reasons, or be stimulated by rape or incest scenes in movies. Some people become sexually stimulated by images of the same sex and become confused, deny it, or push the feelings away out of fear. This confusion often derives from having been sexually abused as a child by a person of the same sex.
  • Play and gestures indicative of abuse: A child’s games or gestures can corroborate the child’s statement. Quotes from cases include: “The child’s non-communicative behavior, described by the psychologist as ‘sexualized,’ indicated that the child had some basis in experience for her statement.”
  • Adult remembering abuse: Indiscriminate sexual behavior is common among those who have been sexually abused as children.
  • More than one child with the same story: Two or more children may be exposed to the same abusive event. If the children are interviewed separately and each tells a similar story, their statements are mutually corroborative –enhancing the reliability of each.
  • Adult remembering abuse: More than one sibling occasionally makes an accusation of delayed abuse memories about the same perpetrator, and they describe similar experiences. Often a sibling, who has always remembered being abused, will corroborate the memories of the person reporting delayed memories. There have been a number of repressed memory cases where the adult victims, unknown to one another, make an accusation about the same person.
  • Defendant’s opportunity to carry out the abuse: The fact that the accused had the opportunity to commit the act described in a child’s statement, increases the reliability of the statement.
  • Adult remembering abuse: Most accused parents, siblings, baby sitters, family friends, extended relatives, and even neighbors had ample opportunity spanning over a number of years to have committed many acts of sexual abuse.
  • Substantiation with defendant’s prior uncharged misconduct: Evidence that the accused has a history of activity similar to what the child is complaining about can support the child’s assertion.
  • Adult remembering abuse: It is often disclosed through other family members, or by the person remembering abuse, that the perpetrator had a large pornographic collection or had walked around the house naked in front of the children, or violated boundaries in other areas –like deliberately walking in on the child in the bathroom or while the child was dressing.
  • Character evidence: If a pertinent trait of the defendant’s character substantiates a child’s hearsay statement, evidence of character trait may be admissible in court under the issue of corroboration.
  • Adult remembering abuse: Many of the people being remembered as perpetrators of child sexual abuse, were alcoholics and had trouble with anger. Others were physically abusive or had violent tempers. Alcoholism and physical abuse are both linked to those who commit child sexual abuse.
  • Expert testimony that child was abused: Expert testimony which corroborates the child’s statement can be used to affirm the sexual assaults.
  • Adult remembering abuse: Licensed psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, therapists, and counselors have frequently determined that an adult remembering sexual abuse for the first time, showed signs of having been abused as a child.
  • Expert testimony that child was abused: Perpetrator and child have a strong bond, almost like boyfriend and girlfriend, which can include jealousy of the mother, or the mother is jealous of the child. The child can enjoy the abuser’s company, express love, or other positive feelings toward their abuser –often defending the perpetrator.
  • Adult remembering abuse: Women often defend their abuser through denial, or an inability to be angry at the abuser because of their love for him. This is common for a woman to do with her father. Sometimes, the rivalry remains between the mother and her daughter, and when the daughter beings to deal with memories of child sexual abuse with her father, she remains psychologically bonded to him.

Common ways that children are affected by sexual abuse:

Health problems

Unusual Fears


Low Self Esteem

Eating Disorders

Suicidal Thoughts

Lack of Concentration



Fighting, Bullying Others

Gender confusion

Overly sexual behavior, or sexually abusing a younger or less powerful child

Lack of Trust

Fear of Restrooms

Drug or Alcohol Use




Crying without provocation


Overly Compliant

Overly Defiant

Avoidance of reminders of the trauma

Regressing in age

Excessive worry about themselves dying, or loved ones dying


Avoiding things they used to love

Unusual triggers (A piece of food shaped like a sexual organ may set them off)

Becoming recluse

Unnecessary guilt

Psychosomatic symptoms



Thoughts of suicide

Aggression and impulsive behavior

The previous symptoms are used to help indicate whether a child is being sexually abused. The same list can help determine if someone’s memories of child sexual abuse are valid.


Source: John E.B. Myers Professor of Law.
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7 Responses to Similarities Between Children Currently Suffering Abuse Can Determine Validity of Adult Memories of Child Sexual Abuse

  1. mglvsjc says:

    Thanks…so much help! You forgot to put Woody Allens picture up there.

    Date: Sat, 6 Jun 2015 13:47:54 +0000 To:

    • Alethea says:

      No, I would not put Woody Allen there because of the following reasons:

      He has not been convicted of a crime, never admitted to anything except being a degenerate with a teenage girl –whom he is married to now, and the evidence against him about Dylan Farrow is slim –and because Dylan Farrow and her mother Mia, both came out with support and “love” for Lena Dunham after she went public exposing what she did to her little sister, and after she proved herself as a sexual degenerate who made money off the book which describes in disgusting detail, the sexual abuse of a child.

      I am not, nor will I ever be, a fan of Woody Allen, but he is no where near the sexual or murderous degenerate as those I picture in my Blog’s gallery.

  2. KevinF says:

    Excellent article, Alethea. This is a great reference/resource list for us survivors to understand all the various symptoms, emotions and triggers that we can feel and experience at different times.

  3. Michelle says:

    The list should include cutting and Stockholm syndrome. My daughter has completely bonded with her abuser (father). A therapist in her drug rehab said he had never seen anything like it. It’s as if they are husband and wife!

    • Alethea says:

      I hate to use labels like “Stockholm Syndrome” for child sexual abuse, which has so many different dynamics and aspects. But I will add a description of the sexual abuse version of SS. The therapist in her drug rehab has not seen much. This is a common thing. It happened to me. I felt like my father and I were boyfriend and girlfriend and my mother was “the other woman.” Very common.

    • Alethea says:

      Added…thank you so much for reminding me of this dynamic. I tend to forget it because it still brings me embarrassment and shame over having enjoyed being with my father sexually.

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