Key Principles and Facts about Child Sexual Abuse and Incest

  • Incestuous families often do not appear deviant in any way. In fact, most seem perfectly normal, and many are high-functioning.
  • In many families where incest is being perpetrated by one or both parents, the father has a respectable job and the mother is a homemaker and both often attend church or synagogues. Many abusers are atheists as well.
  • Alcoholism, and or, drug addiction are often involved in acts of child sexual abuse, and in families of incest.
  • Incest and child sexual abuse, perpetrated by a neighbor or family friend, rarely happens “just once” and the child is usually victimized for years –often well into their teenage years. The father, or step-father, usually abuses more than one daughter. They often physically abuse the male children, but sometimes a father or step-father sexually abuses or rapes the male children as well.
  • Child sexual abusers and child rapists rarely look like a monster –most look very normal and hold jobs of all different levels of education –including judges, Government officials, police-officers, and firemen. Sexual perpetrators are often the most respectable, well-loved members of the community, and often the person least likely to be suspected.
  • Less than ten percent of child sexual abusers are mentally ill, but the other 90% are emotionally ill.
  • Father-daughter incest is the most common form of incest.
  • Child sexual abuse is linked to all kinds of physical illnesses and diseases in adulthood, and to countless psychological conditions. Depression, fibromyalgia, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, personality disorders, insomnia, panic attacks, and migraines are just a few..
  • Anger is often the most repressed emotion connected to child sexual abuse, and the most difficult to get to during therapy and healing.
  • Over ninety percent of crimes perpetrated against children go unreported.
  • The United States Dept of Justice says one in twenty men have molested a child.
  • Seven out of ten sexual assault victims are under eighteen years old. This means that mostly children and teens are being raped and assaulted.
  • Ninety percent of child sexual abuse is committed by someone known, loved, and trusted by the victim.
  • At least sixty percent of all convicted sex offenders are on parole or probation. The vast majority of offenders are never caught, yet they have sexually abused multiple victims in their lifetime.
  • Forty to sixty percent of men who abuse women, will abuse children as well.
  • Fewer than five percent of children ever tell anyone that an adult is sexually assaulting them.
  • Children of all ages are raped or molested –and for some children, even from infancy.
  • Women, mothers, aunts, grandmothers, and sisters sexually molest children too.
  • When a sibling sexually abuses a younger sibling, or a child that is less powerful, it can be very painful and damaging to the victim. Some people excuse sibling sexual abuse as “playing doctor,” or “mutual exploration,” or “no big deal,” but it can be a big deal to the victim and can cause many physical, emotional, and psychological symptoms in the victim. In addition, same-sex sibling sexual abuse can be devastating and create terrible problems for the victim –even when it was a female sibling who abused a female child! Female-female child sexual abuse can be very serious for the victim. So is male to male child sexual abuse.
  • Up to 20% of victims of child sexual abuse completely block out the entire event/events, and even their entire childhood can be blocked out from memory if the trauma and abuse began at an early age, lasted for many years, was severely emotionally traumatic, and involved threats of death.
  • Photographs of incest are uncommon. Medical records are more likely non-existent because most abusers do not take the child they are raping and molesting to a doctor to treat the abuse, more often than not, the mother (or father) who knows the sexual abuse is taking place, also do not take the child for help.

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  • Studies show that at least forty-four percent of mothers protect the abuser, not their child. If rape was involved, the mother is even less likely to have protected her child.
  • Most survivors of child sexual abuse are angrier at the mother who did nothing to stop the abuse, than they are at the perpetrator. Most mothers, who guard the abuser, do so out of self-convenience, love for the abuser, and material needs –not because they are “victims too.” A mother’s chosen ignorance severely affects incest victims physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Many victims repress those emotions because of society’s views of women, and because we have been taught that women are all victims, and because we are taught that mothers cannot be blamed.
  • Many survivors of child sexual abuse –especially victims of incest- can also become very angry at any non-offending siblings, who did not protect them. This is a natural, normal response to have towards family members who knew the abuse was happening, but did nothing to stop it.
  • According to former FBI Agent Ken Lanning, children often don’t have any visible signs of abuse. When a child has been sexually assaulted, doctors often cannot find any identifying physical marks or injuries. Even if the child was physically wounded, they can heal rapidly.
  • Researchers have found that abnormal medical exams in children, who are suspected of having been sexually abused, only occurs about four percent of the time. The results of this study show that signs of sexual abuse in a child are hard to detect when physical evidence is depended upon as the primary indicator.
  • Experts feel there are fifty to sixty million survivors of child sexual abuse in the United States alone. Evidence shows this number is grossly underestimated.
  • Many survivors of child sexual abuse and incest have lost their connection with God, or a Higher Power because the person who sexually violated them proclaimed to be a religious person. Other victims lost faith in God because they could not understand how a loving God could possibly allow the abuse to happen to them. These feelings are normal and natural to have.
  • Lastly, and most importantly, you were not at fault for what happened to you. NO CHILD wants to be sexually abused. Some children respond to sexual abuse in a favorable way because they were not provided with love from other authority figures or family members. Sometimes the perpetrator gave the child gifts, treated them special, or the abuse created a pleasurable physiological response in the child. Victims having a favorable bodily reaction to sexual abuse is nothing to be ashamed of. This is a normal reaction to child sexual abuse. The perpetrator and anyone who protected the perpetrator are the only guilty people. Children are innocent.

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The Dangers of Cannabis

There is a huge movement across America, and other parts of the world, promoting the use of Cannabis for “health” and “well-being” — to “treat” depression, loneliness, stress, and fatigue.

Cannabis vaper devices, liquids, topicals, and edibles are promoted to avoid smoking the substance –as if it becomes “healthy” for you as long as you don’t smoke it.

Hemp Oil is highly pushed for insomnia, stress, depression and anxiety.

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WARNING to readers:

I tried Hemp Oil for about a week when I was experiencing severe pain from an unresolved psychological trauma. I looked to the Hemp Oil out of desperation because I could not sleep or function due to the pain in my body.  I was terrified of prescription drugs, as they can cause loss of limbs, total peeling off of the skin, or death. (the woman in the article, who lost her skin, was prescribed Lamictal, sometimes used to treat bipolar disorders and depression.)

Taking the Hemp Oil was a huge mistake because it caused the underlying issue -my trauma- to surface in my body before I was ready to face it. The Hemp Oil caused me to experience extreme dizziness to the point of almost having to go to a hospital. I could feel the Hemp Oil heavily in my body that morning. I knew it was causing the problem and immediately stopped taking it. The dizziness never returned and my body felt a huge sigh of relief.

The memory connected to the dizziness came out in therapy a few weeks later when I was ready to handle it. I dealt with the dizziness by dealing with the memory.

It is dangerous to promote the use of Cannabis for stress, fatigue, loneliness, or depression.

The issues listed above are all symptoms of a person’s deeper-rooted psychological problem. “Psyche” mean “soul.” The person’s soul is not at peace. Depression is anger turned inward on one’s self. “loneliness” is an Ego problem, based in NEED/desire. The human Ego needs to be addressed.

Becoming addicted to substances will NOT cure or heal you. In addition, people need to know that the U.S. government owns the patent for Cannabis. If you use your intelligence, you can figure out the implications -future dangers- of the United States Government owning the patent to a substance that is used for treating medical issues, or for recreation or stress.

Anxiety, depression, stress and insomnia are symptoms of something deeper –something in the soul (Psyche) or Ego-needs of the person is crying out to be heard.

All Cannabis does, is the same thing that RX drugs do –it suppresses/represses the real problem in the person’s soul/psyche/mind, and the problem will show itself in other ways. The unresolved pain will create worse problems in the person’s body, or in their psychological/emotional state.

True healing comes from within, not from outward substances. The root cause of illness and disease must be found, or humanity will be forever stumbling around in the dark tripping over themselves, running into walls -hurting and killing themselves with outward treatments that do not heal anyone –do not truly heal anyone of anything. Prescription drugs, surgeries, and Chemotherapy can be deadly and harmful. Substances like Cannabis are only treating the symptom. 

The symptom is a cry for help from the soul of a person –a strong message that something is not okay in the soul, and or, mind of that person.

-Alethea Nova

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Repressed/Recovered Memory and Dissociation Explained

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Airline Passenger Spots Child Abuser Texting About Child Molestation, Saves Victims

Here is another case of a woman being involved in child sexual abuse. The person the man was texting to set up sex acts with children, is a woman.

 

Written by Rachel Herron

A Seattle preschool teacher recently proved that the phrase “see something, say something” can actually save lives. While on a flight from Seattle to San Jose on Monday, she reported a possible case of sexual abuse after reading texts on a fellow passenger’s phone that referenced sexual acts with children, authorities said.

During the Southwest Airlines flight, the woman noticed explicit messages involving sexual fetishes with children on a man’s phone. The man, who sat in front of her, used large font on his phone and held the device in plain sight of other travelers. Once the woman noticed a few messages she found disturbing, she reported the man to the flight crew, reported Mercury News.

“It’s kind of mind-blowing,” San Jose sex crimes detective Nick Jourdenais told Mercury News. “She gets on a plane, a normal citizen minding her business. A couple of hours later, she’s intervening on quite possibly the most traumatic thing children can go through. This was life-altering for them.”

“It was in large font, and she sees certain words and starts contemplating there’s something bigger there,” Jourdenais said. “Then the conversation transitions to children. That’s the moment when she decided to preserve the evidence as best as she could.”

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When the woman noticed the messages, she took photos of some of the texts with her own smartphone and then quietly alerted the flight crew. They contacted San Jose police and its airport division stationed at Mineta San Jose International Airport.

“Kudos to this young lady. She went a step further,” Sgt. Brian Spears, commander of the SJPD Internet Crimes Against Children task force told Mercury News. “Without us responding right away, he would have been lost.”

Once the plane landed, San Jose police, along with San Francisco-based FBI agents, detained 56-year-old Tacoma resident Michael Kellar.

When Jourdenais and Michael O’Grady searched Kellar’s phone, the suspect dismissed his text messages as nothing more than fantasy and role playing. Yet the detectives continued their investigation and contacted FBI agents and detectives back in Seattle.

Using smartphone technology, the detectives located the home in Tacoma where the woman exchanging texts with Kellar lived. After responding to the home, they discovered two children, ages 5 and 7, who were being sexually abused.

Investigators contend that Kellar was making sexual requests for the children and that the woman, identified as 50-year-old Gail Burnworth, was carrying them out.

Kellar was booked into the Santa Clara County Main Jail on suspicion of two felony counts each of attempted child molestation and solicitation of a sex crime. He is being held without bail.

Burnworth was booked into jail in Pierce County, Washington, on suspicion of felony counts of sexual exploitation of a minor, rape of a child and dealing in depictions of a minor engaged in sexually explicit conduct.

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http://www.bet.com/news/national/2017/08/04/woman-saves-children-from-sexual-abuse-after-reading-text-messag.html

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Sexual Assault May Trigger Involuntary Paralysis

“Tonic immobility” hinders the ability to fight and is linked to high rates of depression and PTSD”

  • By Francine Russo on August 4, 2017  in the Scientific American

Survivors of sexual assault who come forward often confront doubt on the part of others. Did you fight back? they are asked. Did you scream? Just as painful for them, if not more so, can be a sense of guilt and shame. Why did I not resist? they may ask themselves. Is it my fault? And to make matters worse, although the laws are in flux in various jurisdictions, active resistance can be seen as necessary for a legal or even “common sense” definition of rape. Unless it is clearly too dangerous, as when the rapist is armed, resisting is generally thought to be the “normal” reaction to sexual assault.

But new research adds to the evidence debunking this common belief. According to a recent study, a majority of female rape survivors who visited the Emergency Clinic for Rape Victims in Stockholm reported they did not fight back. Many also did not yell for help. During the assault they experienced a kind of temporary paralysis called tonic immobility. And those who experienced extreme tonic immobility were twice as likely to suffer post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and three times more likely to suffer severe depression in the months after the attack than women who did not have this response.

Tonic immobility (TI) describes a state of involuntary paralysis in which individuals cannot move or, in many cases, even speak. In animals this reaction is considered an evolutionary adaptive defense to an attack by a predator when other forms of defense are not possible. Much less is known about this phenomenon in humans, although it has been observed in soldiers in battle as well as in survivors of sexual assault. A study from 2005, for example, found 52 percent of female undergraduates who reported childhood sexual abuse said they experienced this paralysis.

The new study, published in Acta Obstetrecia et Gynecologica Scandinavica,reports that of nearly 300 women who visited the rape clinic, 70 percent experienced at least “significant” tonic immobility and 48 percent met the criteria for “extreme” tonic immobility during the rape. (The condition’s severity was assessed using a scale that measured feelings of being frozen, mute, numb and so on.)

This latest research is important because of its large sample size (298 women reporting, 189 of whom returned for a follow-up assessment after six months) and because they related their experience within 30 days of the assault, thus reducing the possibility of faulty recall. These findings strongly support previous research that links this involuntary paralysis with greater psychological harm following the assault. The 2005 study, for example, found an association between having experienced tonic immobility and significant psychological impairment.

The connection between this paralysis response and suffering greater PTSD and depression makes sense at the intuitive level, clinicians say. Women, men and children who are sexually assaulted and think they should have resisted but did not may also be prone to feeling guilt and shame. The correlation is strong although it does not prove causality. “I am not surprised that tonic immobility is common,” says University of Sydney psychiatrist Kasia Kozlowska, who has recently published, with her colleagues, a study in the Harvard Review of Psychiatry about the brain’s involuntary defense mechanisms in humans and other animals. “After all,” she wrote in an e-mail, “tonic immobility is designed to activate when there is contact with a predator (akin to the sexual abuse situation). Theoretically, one could expect it to activate when there is physical contact, high arousal and fear, and no possibility of running away.”

This “rape-induced paralysis,” she explains, is one of six automatically activated defense behaviors in animals and humans that make up the “defense cascade.” Typically, nonhuman animals are programmed to go through each of the states as the proximity of the danger escalates. The stages are: arousal (alertness to possible danger); freezing (momentarily putting flight or fight on hold while assessing danger); “flight or fight”; tonic immobility; collapsed immobility (fainting in fear); and quiescent immobility (a subsequent state of rest that promotes healing). People who experience sexual assault may go through several of these stages, or skip straight to tonic immobility.

Each of the defense reactions, she explains, involves activation of motor and arousal centers in the brain and changes in pain and sensory processing. When flight or fight is possible, motor programs for running or fighting are activated, the arousal system is switched to a high-energy setting and nonopioid analgesia is switched on. This helps the victim either run away or fight the predator. When flight or fight is not possible, immobility motor programs are activated, causing the paralysis. At the same time, the arousal system is switched to a low-energy setting, and the brain is flooded with “opioid analgesia” to reduce the intensity of the fear and pain.

Humans and other animals cannot control these defense mechanisms. In humans who are being raped, tonic immobility may be immediately triggered when their sensory inputs (touch, smell and so on) reach a critical threshold and they feel there is no escape.

The implications for rape survivors in the legal system are immense, experts say. If courts demand these people prove they resisted, says Kozlowska, “these courts are actually causing psychological harm to the women and failing to recognize the body’s innate response to serious attack.” Police and soldiers, she adds, also experience tonic immobility in traumatic situations and similarly suffer from unnecessary guilt.

The phenomenon of tonic immobility during an attack is not well known within the legal and judicial system, but people working with sexual assault survivors have long been aware of it, says James Hopper, a psychological trauma expert and teaching associate at Harvard Medical School. Since 2012 Hopper has been training civilian and military investigators and prosecutors around the country, and has found them very receptive.

It is critical, says Karolinska Institute gynecologist Anna Möller, the current study’s lead author, for rape survivors themselves to understand that their ability to fight was out of their conscious control. Education could be instrumental in altering their interpretations of their behavior after the fact, reducing their shame and guilt. It could provide them, the study authors say, “with evidence that they do not choose the path their bodies ultimately went down.”…

Related: Former Miss America, Marilyn Van derbur, was sexually abused by her father, including rape for almost thirteen years. Marilyn has written the wonderful book, Miss America by Day. In her book and in her public speeches, Marilyn has talked about being physically paralyzed from head to toe because of the incest. Marilyn’s paralysis was the unresolved incest issues using her body to say, “You are not over this yet. Deal with me.” This is only one aspect of the many physical problems that Marilyn had suffered because of her father raping her for so many years. How do you think Marilyn would react to being told while lying in bed completely paralyzed that she ought to just get up and “quit being a victim?’

https://ordinaryevil.wordpress.com/2009/11/15/former-miss-america-marilyn-van-derbur-was-paralyzed-from-the-incest-part-two-in-a-series/

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https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sexual-assault-may-trigger-involuntary-paralysis/

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Paul Shanley -Perpetrator in Famous Case of Repressed Memories- Released From Prison

So sorry everyone. I had no computer for three weeks…

Priest at center of clergy sex abuse scandal to be released

By DENISE LAVOIE
AP Legal Affairs Writer

BOSTON (AP) – One of the most notorious figures in the Boston clergy sex abuse scandal has completed his prison sentence on child rape charges and will be released this week after two experts hired by prosecutors found he does not meet the legal criteria to be held as a sexually dangerous person.

Paul Shanley was known in the 1960s and ’70s for being a hip street priest who reached out to troubled youths. But in 2005 he was convicted of repeatedly raping and fondling a boy at a suburban parish in the 1980s, and he was sentenced to 12 to 15 years in prison.

Middlesex District Attorney Marian Ryan said Tuesday that her office hired two psychiatric experts to evaluate Shanley, now 86 years old, to see if he should continue to be held after completing his sentence. Both experts told prosecutors that he does not meet the legal criteria for civil confinement as a sexually dangerous person.

Once Shanley is released Friday, he will begin 10 years of supervised probation.

Shanley was defrocked after dozens of men came forward and said he had molested them when they were children.

Attorney Mitchell Garabedian, who represented some of those men in lawsuits against the Archdiocese of Boston, said his clients are upset that Shanley is getting out of prison.

“Unfortunately, there is no mechanism in place which will prevent Paul Shanley from sexually abusing once again,” Garabedian said. “When it comes to a sexual abuser abusing an innocent child, the abuser can be 35 or 95 – there’s no age limit.”

Ryan said Shanley is prohibited from interacting with children.

“The defendant will be monitored by the probation department for the next 10 years and has been ordered to have no contact with children under 16 years of age,” she said.

Under a Massachusetts law, prosecutors may petition a court to have a defendant indefinitely confined as a sexually dangerous person after completion of a prison sentence if the state can prove he suffers from a mental illness or abnormality that makes him incapable of controlling sexually dangerous impulses.

After Shanley was convicted, prosecutors asked a judge to send him to prison for the rest of his life.

Ryan said both doctors who evaluated Shanley concluded that he does not satisfy the legal criteria for prosecutors to file a petition seeking to confine him after his prison sentence.

During the trial, Shanley’s accuser, then a 27-year-old firefighter, said Shanley would pull him from Sunday catechism classes and rape and fondle him at St. Jean’s parish in Newton, beginning when he was 6 years old. The man said he recovered memories of the abuse as the clergy sex abuse scandal unfolded in the Archdiocese of Boston during the early 2000s.

Shanley’s trial attorney, Frank Mondano, declined to comment on Shanley’s upcoming release from prison. During the trial, Mondano challenged the reliability of the accuser’s repressed memories.

Shanley’s appellate lawyer, Robert Shaw Jr., said Shanley has “served his time.”

“We’ve never believed that he was dangerous, and we didn’t believe that what he was convicted of was a valid conviction, given that it rested on repressed memory evidence that we did not believe was valid,” he said.

The Archdiocese of Boston, the fourth-largest archdiocese in the country, with more than 1.8 million Catholics, said Shanley’s crimes against children were “reprehensible.”

“No young person should ever have to experience such violations of their safety and dignity,” it said in a statement released Tuesday.

The clergy sex abuse scandal exploded in Boston in 2002 after a series of stories by The Boston Globe revealed that dozens of priests in the archdiocese had molested and raped children for decades while church supervisors covered it up and shuffled abusive priests from parish to parish. Thousands of victims came forward in Boston and around the world, describing sexual abuse by priests that dated back decades.

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The Vagina Monologues Promotes Child Molestation and Rape

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The Vagina Monologues, was created by Eve Ensler, who placed a scene in the play called, “The Little Coochie Snorcher That Could.”

In the skit, a 24-year-old woman seduces a 13-year-old girl with alcohol, and then sexually molests her. By moral law, this is RAPE, and it is a crime under the law.

In the play, the little girl declared:

“Now people say it was a kind of rape … Well, I say if it was rape, it was a good rape…”

After concerned individuals complained about The Vagina Monologues, the reference to “good rape” was stopped in some performances of the play, but the so-called ‘positive’ experience of a young girl being seduced and sexually abused by a grown woman, remained the theme.

In the play, the little girl raved about her orgasm (an orgasm brought on, during an act of child sexual abuse). The child proclaims in the play, “she gently and slowly lays me out on the bed”… “I’ll never need to rely on a man.”

In updated versions of the play (also due to complaints by the public), the 13 year-old girl was changed to a 16 year-old. However, even a sixteen year-old girl does not have the discrimination to make rational decisions when seduced and manipulated by an older woman who, by age alone, is an authority figure to the girl, and usually someone the victim trusts or looks up to.

The suggestion that female-female sexual abuse is “good” for the child, and not sexual abuse at all, was made quite clear in this play.

The Vagina Monologues encouraged the disturbing belief that if a woman sexually molests a female child, it’s okay, and even good for the little girl.

The Vagina Monologues is presented nationwide, every year on Valentine’s Day, a day which symbolizes Love, devotion, self-sacrifice, courtship, and romance. This play has devalued what true Love is, by advertising the play as “V” Day, as in “vagina” and by running the play ‘in honor’ of Valentine’s Day.

This play has nothing to do with Love, romance, courtship, or mutual respect in a committed relationship. The Vagina Monologues consists of numerous monologues read by many different actresses, with each of the monologues addressing varying aspects of female experiences, like sex, love, rape, menstruation, female genital mutilation, masturbation, birth, and orgasm.

The recurring theme of the play is that the vagina is a tool of female empowerment, and ‘the ultimate embodiment of individuality’ and the play goes into tampons and tools used in OBGYN exams, and even considers the word “cunt” to be positive.

Supporters of the play praise its fund-raising abilities, and that it will help “end violence against women.” On the contrary, this play encourages violence against women.

The Vagina Monologues, is alarming on multiple levels.

Many versions of this play not only promotes female to female child molestation against a teenage girl, but the play portrays the idea that women don’t even need men –that they should become lesbians.

The play also annihilates the beautiful concept of Valentine’s Day and denegrates it into a day for the celebration of lesbians, child abuse, vaginas, and feminism.

Women, by nature, are supposed to be the protectors of children, not the abusers of them.

Throughout time, females have been counted on to retain compassion, dignity, and the right for life to exist. It is women who have been given the sole right to nurse a child, and who have been looked to for comforting victims, and are the only gender to be able to give birth to a child.

Feminism, is not about empowering women. Feminism -as it stands- has nothing to do with women’s rights, equal pay, or political, social and economic equality to men.

There is nothing empowering about ‘talking vaginas,’ the degradation of women, the physical and emotional power of sexually abusing a child, or the purposeful degradation of men. It is not empowering for a woman to discuss her vagina.

Empowerment of women begins when women stop only defending one another, and instead, defend truth, justice, femininity, children -and men when men need defending or nurturing, or to feel like real men.

The empowerment of women begins when women stop believing they are the superior sex (both sexes have good qualities), that they don’t need men, and when they honor the true feminine qualities of grace, compassion, softness, inner beauty, and respect and dignity for all life, and for men.

Powerful women look to the good attributes of men, and admire them, by uplifting men with honor and respect for their goodness, masculinity, and as the defenders of women and children that manhood is supposed to be.

How can women expect a man to be a protector and a guardian of women, if women continue to demoralize men, and make them feel obsolete?

Powerful women use their bodies as a way to be gentle and powerful simultaneously.

Women were once considered Sacred in this world, but feminism has all but abolished the sanctity of women.

Ultimately, Valentine’s Day, is linked to Saint Valentine. Saints represent sanctity, holiness, self-sacrifice, and consecration to a place of honor and reverence.

This is what women should strive for –not to be more powerful than men, or to outdo them, or to replace them –but to raise their consciousness to a place where men desire to revere women again.

If women want to end violence against women, then they need to begin by looking at themselves, and their role in how men see them.

It’s no wonder why so many men are full of anger and resentment, and feelings of inadequacy. A lot of women -especially feminists- treat men like crap by degrading them, and by minimizing their important role in life.

Love has respect for both genders, and Love honors the innate qualities in each sex.

May the innocence and intrinsic love in children, remind you of Valentine’s day.

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Sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Vagina_Monologues
http://www.wendymcelroy.com/rockwell/mcelroy000403.html
http://www.americanthinker.com/blog/2014/11/lena_dunham_gay_rights_pioneer.html
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/kristen-cunnanes-harrowing-tale-of-a-coachs-sexual-abuse/
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